First time going to kindergarden? ?

Question

my little girl was so excited about kindergarden but everytime i take her to school she cries when i leave and i feel so bad but i cant stay and this school wont let parents in the hall way so i cant even walk her to class so it makes it so much worse how can i help her adjust to her new surroundings or situation my other daughter did great but this one is having trouble she is so smart she can write her name and count to 50 and knows her abc and everything why is she so scared help please thank you natasha

Answer 1

maybe try to find another child in her class that she feels comforterable with that could help her walk to class. set up a play date or something so they can get to know each other. and eventually she will make friends and be fine.

Answer 2

Oh I remember the days that my kids went to kindergarten! That is true, the school doesn't want the parents to walk the kids to class because they end up crying or not going to class; it was the attachment thing. Ask her questions such as if she made any friends in school, what did you do in class, etc.

Maybe you should put a little stuff toy or a note in her backpack or lunch saying "mommy loves you, I will see you after school" or "have a good day", "we will go for ice-cream after school", etc.

Good luck, she will be fine.

Answer 3

There are so many different factors that play into being "scared".  I don't know her background but here are some thoughts for you to ponder.

* Has she just started school?  Meaning...been only 1-4 weeks.  Usually that's about how long it takes for a child to adjust.

* Has she attended any type of child care or preschool before entering Kindergarten?  I find that children who have not have a more difficult transition because it is SO different.  There are MANY kids in the classroom with just 1 or 2 adults.  It's loud and really...it can seem chaotic.  At 5 or 6...children are still learning how to make friends...so maybe she hasn't "made a friend" yet.  That will make a HUGE difference.

* Is she sensing nervousness from you?  Maybe she's "playing you" but is fine once she gets in the classroom.  Have you discussed this with her teacher?  Have a phone conference with the teacher when your child can NOT hear you.  Discuss what you see upon arrival.  Ask what she's like in school...how long it takes her to become a part of the group... what suggestions does the teacher have for you and your child.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Try role playing with her. You can have her pretend to be the kindergarten teacher and you can be the student. Show her what a good student looks like and then she can try to do the same for you. After you can see that she can role play a good kid you can ask her to think of this the next time she is scared to go to school.  

Answer 5

I realize it is very hard for you to see your daughter in her emotional state.  I'll start with a parent's perspective: While you may feel the push to coddle her, what may help is to be firm at drop-off time.  I'm not saying to be nasty, but say I love you and I know you'll be great at school today.  There is a fantastic book called "The Kissing Hand" by Audrey Penn.  It's a story about a raccoon that goes to school and misses his mom.  His mom says something inspirational and then kisses his hand to remind him she's always there.  You could easily give the child a heart-shaped paper to keep in her pocket or draw a heart on her hand.  

From a teacher's perspective: It's important for you to leave your daughter at the designated drop-off point and to not "dote" over her.  This way she doesn't see this as an acceptable behavior.  From my experience, when a parent enters a classroom the first few weeks, it is very hard to get them to leave without having made an impact on the day: a late start, an emotional start.  Being inside the classroom may also give your daughter a physical reminder that you have been there.  I suggest talking with your daughter's teacher to see how she reacts throughout the day.  How long does she stay emotional?  Is there anything she suggests doing, any tricks of the trade?

The most important thing is that you know your own daughter and to know if it is a too-stressful situation and find a solution to that.  It may also help to have your older child talk to her about her fears.  Siblings can offer alot of help and support with school-related situations!

Best of luck!

Answer 6

that's why i prefer kids go to daycare or preschool first. don't worry give 2 more weeks she well be fine

Answer 7

She's probably scare of the new surrounding, I think you should talk to her and take her out where there are a lot of other kids so that she can interact with them, sometimes when they don't have other kids around they get scare of not knowing what is going on

However don't worry to much, she eventually will get over it and move on.

Hope this works for something.