For adults only is this humane?

Question

My grandmother is been suffering for a long time now.She can not think, or see. or hear. She does not know who we are, and she has Parkinson's disease. All of her organs work great, but her brain is gone. I am very sad and overwhelmed. As a family we decided to pull her feeding tube last night. It was the hardest decision ever. I cant sleep or eat. I just can believe that california does not permit Youth and asia. What is worse pulling someone feeding tube or giving them a shot to put them to sleep. I know this answer i feel California's laws on this issue is back words. Give me your opinions please. Thanks a bunch.

Answer 1

Youth and Asia, I think you mean euthanasia.

Answer 2

pulling the tube is okay. Sometimes, we have to let go of a person that we love. My dear cousin had bone marrow disease, and he was on life support after surgery. It was getting so bad, that we decided to pull the tube out and let him die over sleep.

It's sad, but you have to do it.

Answer 3

I don't think it's right for anybody to take a life. We don't have that right, no matter what the situation is.

Answer 4

Euthanasia. It has to do with implied consent, thus the ban

Answer 5

The correct word is "euthanasia" and no one really knows because this is a VERY controversial topic.

Answer 6

Yes, I agree it's a very difficult decision. We had to do it to my great uncle a little while back. I had the same reaction you're having. Trust me, I know you feel like you're a horrid person and all this other stuff, but you have to think about this over again. She's in a lot of pain. She doesn't know anything. She is having difficulty doing the slightest things. She's on a feeding tube because she can't feed herself. Think back to a time where she COULD do all of these things. Would she have wanted to waist away the rest of her life in a bed, in pain, not knowing her loved ones, not feeding herself, having others worry and take care of her? She would probably say no. No one wants to live a vegetable. You weren't taking a life either. You were simply giving her what she would have wanted. No one, I mean NO ONE, wants to live a vegetable. If there was even the slightest chance of a full recovery, do you think the doctors would have allowed it in the first place? Most doctors would keep trying untill there is nothing left to do.

I know it's hard to swallow, but you honestly have to believe she's in a better place.

-Later Gator-

Answer 7

You're grandmother may have suffered, she might not have, but you can NEVER KNOW it... just one thing though. your grandmother sounds like a very wise person (old people usually are ^_^), and I'm sure she wouldnt have wanted to cause your family any pain. Im sure that if she was conciously aware of what was going on, she would have wanted you to stop suffering. be happy, for she is now at peace, and you can put the worries aside... dont feel guilty about trying to forget it, just remember all the good times you had with her and all the good things about her, and she will never truly have left

Answer 8

I do believe in euthanasia.  I'm sorry for your loss, but I think you and your family did the right thing.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother..

- the answer to your question, you know by pulling out a feeding tube. (alot of people don't feel the pain when they die). my grandfather had his pulled out and the told my family that he would not feel a thing and it would not be a pain full death....

me personally i would want a shot to just put me a sleep and then let me pass in my sleep....

yet again i am so very sorry about your lost...

Answer 10

Honey, I am so sorry for you and your family. This is not the best place to post this, as you are feeling very raw and are grieving and I'm sure you will get some rough answers due to the subject matter.

I can't speak for your grandmother but if I were in that situation I would want someone to pull the plug, take out the feeding tube, whatever it took. If the essential "me" is gone, there is no reason for the body to continue. I believe that your grandmother will understand that your family did this out of love and compassion.

Take care, bless you.  

Answer 11

you mean euthanasia?

you shouldnt feel bad about it

your grandmother passed away when her brain shut down, and all you did was give her space to someone else who needs that life support machine.

i know it hurts and you cant think like that right now but you will eventually

i was there when the plug was pulled on my sister.

and that law does not apply to you, both options for you allow your grandmother to leave in peace and you chose the legal one which makes no real difference

the law is there to prevent people killing other and claiming it was out of pity and it was euthanasia and you case is different.

Answer 12

We had to do the same thing with my great aunt Betty two years ago. We had taken her nourishment and water resources away. It was a very tough decision.

The thing about it is that if your grandmother is unable to think and feel then she does not know that she is starving. She is not aware if she is being fed or otherwise. The only way to console yourself is to check with her Doctor or the nurses and find out if they believe that it is causing her distress.

If your grandmother is the same as many, she wouldn't like to be left there to suffer without her dignity and composure, without the option of giving her a shot to "put her to sleep" this is the next best alternative.

Also, with it not causing her any distress she dies of a more natural cause than what any shot would involve.

I hope that I have given a bit of help to you in this very hard time in your life.

Take care and if you wish to talk further please feel free to email.