Friends that constanly attack you..?

Question

I use to be around people who critized me, put me down, never had faith in me and pretty much thinking i was NOTHING in life..

I always itook all there B.S. and always got stepped on, I admit it may sound mean but maybe the reason why i took all the B.S. is because i had no one else but them and i didn't want to be lonely.

I then finally met a guy, that made me happy and pretty much turn my life around to something positive. His a really intellegent, loyal, humble guy. He treats me how every girl should be treated. I introduced him to my family and they accepted him of course, but when i introduced him to my friends.. they were talking behind my back about our realtionship. They constantly brought so much drama to our realtionship and we were just doing fine. They would judge our realtionship like they know, but honestly they don't know s**t abour our realtionship.. if they lived with us than sure they can talk all they like but they don't! My man avoided the drama and just minded his own business. I couldn't take it anymore so i would argue back. So finally i had enough and i keep distance from them because i was happy and why couldn't they just be happy for me? So again they would talk there c**p saying he was taking away from them from me... and it just was constant drama when i really i just couldn't take there bulls**t anymore..

So now i'm 7 and half months pregnant.. I'm due Oct. 27;

Ok well.. not to be mean but do they have a right to see my baby in the hospital, when threwout my boyfriend's realtionship and pregnancy there were hatting... cause isn't that wrong.

HOW CAN THEY HOLD MY BABY IN THERE ARMS, WHEN ALL THEY DID WAS DISRESPECT US. I MEAN THEY BABY IS APAPRT OF HIM AND I RIGHT??

Answer 1

Situations and new and exciting issues change people perception of one. Just take a risk. You have to look out for the little one. You know how much pain you were emotionally. Do not let the so-called friends do to your child what they did to you. Do not let this young person be emotionally scared of life because some hateful and unemotional being was nasty and beat this child with looks and words. You and the child deserve better than this in life. Start new. You and yours have this little bundle of joy to look upon. Do not let anyone hurt and put you or him down. It is not fair to the little person. Why would you look upon a person and let him/she hurt you or your child? They can see that issues and concerns have changed. You will be OK. Look at the brighter picture. God allowed you to have this precious gift. Take care of it.Put those who want to hurt you aside.

Answer 2

No offense but you need better friends i wouldn't let any of them near my kid if they did all that ****. Your friends are suppose to respect your choices wither they like it or not. Not only that but if they had a problem with you and him they should have talked to you about it not spue sh.I.t from there mouths behind your back. So as far as i can see actions speak louder than there meaningless words. I always go by how people treat me not by what they say, so your friends are NOT friends. If my friends did all that I'd cut them off without even thinking about it no second chances disrespect like that is inexcusable. By the way don't take **** from anyone any more i learned that the hard way if someone starts putting my down i only take it for so long befor i start punching people and makeing sure i am respected and heard. Sometime you literally have to reach out and touch somebody. I remeber ther was this boy in school who would pick on me because he liked me. So one day when he pulled my hair I punched him in the ******* throat he dropped like a log. The next day I told him if he ever wanted a girl like me or even a friend he would have to get my respect not my attention. You know it felt really good to do that and i know violence isn't always the answer but ever since that day he's been one of my best friends.  

Answer 3

I don't understand why you have anything to do with these people. I would stay far away from them forever. And no, they don't get to go to the hospital. You shouldn't be communicating with them at all.

Answer 4

Here you are about to give birth to a wonderful baby and suppose to be all happy and you are wasting time worrying about these people who hurt you. First of all you have low self  image to be used and walked on like that. I know I did too. I don't know your age or your man's but I hope marriage is in the picture. I hope he isn't using you too.

I hope you got a good education and means to support yourself.

Those people may have been jealous of you at first and then jealous of your man for taking you away. It sounds like you did distance yourself from them by being so close to the guy. It is natural to do when we have a b/f. They may have also seen he might not be as good for you as you seem to present on here. Be careful and now for the baby's sake be strong. I think the maternal and proud feelings you will have for the baby will cause you to be glad to have others hold your sweet baby and you will feel very different about things.