GUYS: what would u think?

Question

A girl you're dating seems very shy. Though she will occasionally call you, she'll text more often (especially when it's your work hours). She doesn't text you every day but when she does she always states that she wanted to "say hi and see how you're doing."

What would u think if she prefaced the text message with "I hope I'm not bothering you..." Would u find it annoying, attractive, obsessive, needy, clingy...?

Answer 1

The preface is usually unnecessary unless its late at night, early in the morning or you've already texted a few times that day.

I would just think you were being polite though :)

And if she were shy I'd understand and insist that its no bother but having said that I don't speak for all guys.

Many could find it annoying

Answer 2

Wow, I say that to anybody, guy or girl 'I hope I'm not bothering you' just out of politeness really and then you have evidently these conceited males like Mike T running around thinking 'Aww, the darling she wants my approval so badly'...Dude get over yourself....It's called being decorous and proper! I think maybe be more direct about your feelings when you are with him and let him chase you...you are the prize..do not put yourself in the subordinate positions here. Be direct when you are with him, more flirtatious but maintain and aloofness and disinteredness to pique his curiosity and make you seem mysterious...I am the shyest girl trust me, but do not let it consume you...you are not a geisha girl

Answer 3

I don't like it, i get one of those calls every day,"hi its only me" (i have caller ID) and there is rarely any point to the conversation, just an update on trivia and feelings!

Answer 4

Yes, those adjectives pretty much sum up a girlfriend who insists on texting during working hours, even if she says 'I hope I'm not bothering you'.  

Texting vs calling is much more impersonal and detached, so claiming you very shy as a reason may be sending the wrong message about how much you actually like the guy.

Answer 5

ATTRACTIVE.

Answer 6

i would reproduce with her

Answer 7

If  I had just started going out with her i would consider it obsessive, especially if she was doing it at a time when i couldn't talk

If my wife did it now i wouldn't consider it any of them, i would just figure she is bored.

Answer 8

depends on what I thought of her before she started texting but generally I would think she is insecure.

Answer 9

That's cute. I love it when a woman wants my approval so bad that she'll ask if she's "bothering me".

I see no problem with anything you've mentioned. I think most men would be fine with it too.  

Answer 10

I would appreciate how considerate she was..  

Answer 11

I would find it polite. It would give me the opportunity to tell her if I objected. It's good communication.  

Answer 12

You do what you want to do.  If you say things like "am I bothering you?" or "I hope I'm not annoying you." then you are just showing insecurities.

Everyone wants to be with somebody who is confident in them selves.  If you want to check up on him, check up on him!  Be who you are!

Now the the real question is would we find it annoying if you kept just checking up on us?  That's for the guy to decide.  There is a reason some people like some people while others like others.

Personally, I'd find it annoying after a while because that probably means you just don't trust me.  But some guys would find this pleasant because it shows you care.

Whatever floats his boat!  :)