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Girlfriend problems..... help?

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im 15. my girlfriend has really changed over the summer. it seems like shes a totally person (whom i don't really like at all) . i really want to break up with her... but i'm afraid she'll hate me after wards (since shes been saying all these things like well be together "forever" and stuff) some of my guy friends tell me i should go for it and just say we should be "just friends" from then on but i'm just not too sure... what should i do? :\

oh and by the way... this is our 7th month together, so this isnt some really crappy teen relationship going on

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Just break up with her. She'll find someone else in a couple of weeks. If you want to spare her feelings, just say that *you* (not her) changed over the summer.
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tell her you should take a break... a couple week later try dating again and seem if anything changed...
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Were you not speaking with her over the summer or something?

If you don't want to be with her, tell her. Make sure you tell her why. Give her a chance to explain herself. If you feel things will change, give it a chance.

Like you say "this isnt some really crappy teen relationship". Prove it and try to work things out. That is, if you care about her.
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Dude if she has change and you dont like her anymore break up with her and tell her why your breaking up with her then date someone else.
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Well, the only thing you can do is be honest with her. Tell her she has changed, tell her how she has changed, tell her you want to take a break but still be good friends.
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If you're truly unhappy with your realationship, you should break it off so they don't end up getting more hurt than if you didn't break it off. Good luck honey, its always is tough breaking up with someone =]
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tell her that your are considering breaking up.
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Seems to me like you should break up with her. You shouldn't really be together if you don't really like her since she has changed. Here are some tips to break up with her:

However kind you may be, there is no way around the fact that this is going to hurt the other person. All you can do is try to minimize the pain. It's just like ripping off a sticking plaster - if you rip it off all in one go the pain will be over quickly, but if you do it slowly it will hurt for longer.

Do not break up with the person by phone, instant message, or e-mail; this is disrespectful. Have the decency to do it privately and in person.

Try to avoid placing blame on the other person for the break up. Be as minimalist as possible in your explanation, especially if the reason for the break up is some fault you find with your partner.

After wards, tell the person that you hope to stay in touch and that you still care about them.

Never say any of the classic break-up lines like "It's not you, it's me."

Wait some time before getting another girlfriend, especially if your former girlfriend will run into you often. DO NOT start going with another girl right after, or even before, you break up with your girlfriend. At least have the decency to wait.

Let the break up be final. Don't keep going back and hooking up with the person over and over again unless you really think there's something still there.

No matter how nice you are, the pain is still the same, and they're going to resent you whether you just say it or are the nicest you can be.

Put yourself in their place, imagine her saying whatever you will tell them to you. Don't make it so hard, and DON'T EVER IGNORE HER.

TALK TO HER!!!! After a few days go by, say hi to her in the halls. Tell her a joke. Be nice to her and let her know she is still your friend, just not in the way she was.
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Who cares how long you have been together. If you don't like her anymore then the amount of time matters not :)

Find a tasteful way of communication that you two use a lot (face to face, text, myspace message) that YOU feel comfortable with to tell her that your feelings have changed and you feel it would be best to end things right now.

She will dis-like you for a while; Normally that happens after a break up. The good thing is with a little time she will get over it and forgive you/move on.

Hope it helps.

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Most girls who date a guy for too long get emotionally attached and we girls say things we feel at the moment. if I were you I'd just tell her how you feel and maybe she feels the same.
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well if you dont love her and you dont want to be with her forever break up with her. if you end up missing each other you will know you should be together.
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d**n dude, been in that situation this summer as well. my girl changed into this person i HATE. all you can really do is talk to her about it. do not end a relationship over it, when it can be talked out. changes can be made. don't listen to your friends either. tell her you feel like shes changed into this person you dont even know. be honest and straight up with her. from there see how it goes.
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