Has anyone felt this way?

Question

I feel like I cant say what is on my mind. Its like everyone around me matters (like all of their issues and drama) and when I say something I feel really dumb. I guess Im just an akward teenager. I dont want to be an akward teenager. Im average looking and I have alot of friends because Im a good listener. I want to break out of my shell. Im sick of being a nobody, and Im sick of the background. I want to get out there, and I want to have a boyfriend and basically enjoy my life. sorry if you are offended by this because, rereading it, it sounds like Im a really bad complainer. How can I break out of my shell and everything mentioned above.

Answer 1

its probably your just stressed

Answer 2

I would surmise that the reason you feel so introverted, whilst being seemingly extroverted, is due to the extroversion, in the form of your social outlets, being not quite what you're in search of in life. Perhaps your perception of what you see around you seems so incredibly superficial and lacking in any such fibre.

If you wish to manipulate your surroundings, in a warm and caring sense, then it's probably a wise move to step out of your comfort zone. If you really feel you need to make a difference, and have a truly marvellous impact on your society in which you live, then you must realise that such voices are most certainly in their minority, and so you'd be an asset!

You've already mentioned that you're a good listener. I am the same, and so stepping into the personal realm for just a moment, I know precisely how you feel. I don't quite know how old you are, but I'm 22 and I know from experience, in retrospect, that being a superior listener is an excellent attribute for any individual. Such wise folks, that most watch in awe, know when to speak, but also know when to listen.

Thus, if you can master the articulation, then you can begin to release all such wisdom you feel you may have into the world, and fill it up with love and knowledge! How you do that is entirely up to you. I think you will find a way. You have to realise that many people are also dumb, but by placing yourself into such a category, you're constantly putting yourself down, and that's not good!

As for the whole boyfriend thing, that's easy enough, the difficult part is having the courage to speak, and speak with conviction!

Answer 3

nahh you dont sound like a complainer.

id say how youre feeling is deff. normal.

your gonna have to say to your friends i need to vent, or just tell them you're not in the mood to hear their problems, they cant expect you to always heed everything they say and cater to their needs, being a friend works both ways, if you can be there for all of their issues then it works both ways.

Answer 4

i have a bestfriend who is exactly like you. she's like a a sister to me and we just discussed this. I think you should just know that your complaints and your drama is just as interesting and important as all of the others girls is. and to be honest when u say " when i say something i feel dumb" ...well you probly the only one that feels that way. the same way you listen and give advice to your friend, i bet their just waiting to hear you and listen to what you have to say too. u just never open up. so give your self some credit and take your turn to complain and put your drama out there! lol

your just as important as ANYONE else

try just slowly mentioning small things to your friends and mention more and more things untill your comfortable with speaking your mind