Help..Children question (she's 21)?

Question

My daugher thinks she found her soul mate. He has three kids now. They have a 2 year old and his new child is about to be born. He doesn't see my grandchild and doesn't pay support. He doesn't even call him.

She has a new beau that supports her and my grandson, but he cheats on her.

If she leaves, she looses the car and has to move back in with me. (she's almost 21 and has no money) She doesn't want me to talk to my husband, and he keeps her on short reins. She has no way of making this situation better for herself. This is my daughter, and I am worried for her.

I just found out. She wants the 'baby's daddy who doesnt' pay support, and want the jerk who cheats on her.

Should I let her move back in? Should I buy her a car?

I am sick of all the c**p these kids are going thru! I just got rid of one kid and her jhusband who didn't pay rent, should I do it again? With a 2 year old? My house isn't baby proofed!

Answer 1

that shouldnt be something that you would have to think of.......... Its your child ofcourse you should let her come back and do everything you could to help her back on her feet .....

she is your gift from god so cherish it!!! GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS

Answer 2

Help your child help herself.  Tell her you love her and will help her ground herself.  Whether it is buying her a car to get to job interviews, or letting her move back in with some ground rules.  (making her pay rent, giving a timeline). make sure you do this all out of love and letting her know it.  She will not help herself if she feels helpless.

I would also find her a counselor that she can talk to, to figure out what other issue lie beneath that has led her into these wrong relationships.  

Focus on her strengths and make sure you encourage her helping herself and NOT to focus on how she f-ked up.

good luck

Sincerely,

      a 24 yr-old with much to learn

Answer 3

21 and that many kids must be very hard.

you should look at the big picture. does she need your help? does she really NEED the car?

you can only help so much. but if she is going to go back and forth with these immature boys, whats the point in helping her. let her make her own choices. help out with the kids and make your daughter understand that she is worth more than these loser that can give a c**p about her