Help! How can I move on?

Question

When I was 7 years old, my grandfather molested me. Him and I were very close all throughout my childhood, so I didn't tell anyone thinking that this "love" was normal. But, after my cousin found out, she told my family and he was put into jail. I've always been kind of quiet about this and was never really comfortable talking about it with my family and friends...simply because I have trust issues now.

But my real question is: How can I get past this?

My boyfriend and I have been dating now for 5 years and the pain of being molested is still here. Whenever we have s*x, which isn't very often, I get really emotional and almost sick to my stomach thinking about being raped as a child. It's something that I can't stop thinking about and it's really hard on not only me, but my boyfriend and our relationship. So does anyone have any advice for me? How can I forget about this? And how can I move on and have a normal life?

Answer 1

Sounds like you could use some professional help working your way through this.

I'm sorry that it happened, but you aren't the first person molested, and likely won't be the last.

This isn't a good forum to answer a question like that, there are people trained to deal with this type of trauma, avail yourself to their help.

Luck

Answer 2

soam fre is right on target. AS he says, I am so very sorry for the gross abuse of your trust by a relative. Get professionbal counseling....you can get over this....trust me.

Answer 3

you and your bf need to hav a long chat about it and work out ways to hav s*x without thinking about. you will get over this issue

Answer 4

I'm so sorry but u need to talk to someone u really can trust.Does your bf know? because it sounds like he dosen't and u might be able to talk to him about. It'll take a while to hele.