Help MY TEEN DAUGHTER IS UNGRATEFUL...!!!?

Question

Ok so my 14 year old daughter is always complaining I don't spend time with her or do things for her or buy her enough things but when when I do these things it seems it is never enough. I feel like the worst mom ever and she doesn't seem to understand that if you want something you may also have to put in some work to get it but since I have basically given into all her wants she now expects them. Did I bring this upon myself?

Answer 1

its because she thinks she can get more since u gave it all to her, she's basically playing a game, just talk to her

Answer 2

shes a teenager course she doesnt want to work..but she will understand she has to shes just stubborn.

as for the moaning its probs not even bout u sometimes u just feel u hav 2 let it all out nd mums r just an easy target so dnt get upset.

:)

Answer 3

Thats just her beeing a teenager!  shes 14, i got my first job at 14, and seriously it taught me the value of a dollar!  maybe look into her getting a job!

Answer 4

Your daughter just needs to understand that you are doing the best that you can and can't always get her things that she wants. There is just no way to do that!!!

I was 14 and my mom tried to give me what she could and yea I do think that its the age because I was always ungreatful I feel bad now because I know now that my mother did all that she could for me.

My mom is 36 now and I'm gonna be 20 she did everything she could for me and I'm happy with that I'm just sad that I acted like a spoiled little rich girl (in a sense).

I don't think that you brought this upon yourself just that its a stage your daughter is going through!!!

Answer 5

She is a teen, and thats how they act.  You may have brought some of this on, by giving her everything she wants.  At some point you need to factor in the word "no", and make her do chores to earn her own money to buy her own things, though you can still help.  This way she will learn that she has to work for what she wants, otherwise 10 years down the road you will be subsidising your adult child.

Answer 6

I have a hard time believing you because you talk like a 12 year old.

Answer 7

Yes, you did.  But she is 14 and would find _something_ to complain about anyway.  

Stop doing things for her.  Tell her she is old enough to start earning her way.  Start with house chores, she wants something, she works for it.

Answer 8

Some teenagers get like that. She might feel she needs to assert authority, and she does so on you. But because you're the parent, you shouldn't give in all the time. Best thing to do is constantly talk to her, and keep your relationship open and honest. As the teen years are starting, it's a good idea to establish a firm relationship to avoid trouble later on.

Also, spending time together is great for bonding, and can help her understand, that time being given, is just as great as stuff being given. As some people suggested, her getting a job is a good idea. It teaches you to value money, and to be careful how you spend it. She's 14, so there aren't a lot of jobs available, but perhaps doing extra chores, or babysitting, might allow her to earn some extra cash, and some valuable lessons.

Answer 9

sorry its just being 14 you are confuzed how you should feel she can proberbly get angry realy quik because i do no so watch out

Answer 10

Tell her thats that and if she asks again or complains tell her that shes grounded or she can't have dessert or something!!!!! or she can't go to that ;arty this weekend or she owes you 1 buck if she complains!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PUT THAT KID IN HER PLACE

Answer 11

Yes, you did.

Answer 12

May be you did bring it on your self a bit, but it's only because you love her.

Explain to her nicely how she is making you feel  and what is happening from now on, explain that you are doing your best but only have limited time and resources.

Answer 13

okay im not trying to be rude

but honestly you kinda did bring

it upon yourself;

and usually thats how every 14 year old is

im 14 but im not really like that

i mean i get what i want when i want it

but it doesnt make me a bratt or anything

and i dont complain if i dont get what i want

and i spend time with my family too.

but honestly you NEED to please

set some ground rules and tell her

that she cant have everything she wants

and if she wants something and you cant

give it to her tell her to put some

effort into buying it herself

and as for spending time

i guess just spend time maybe even

make a calender of the days you spend

together so she cant complain about you

NOT spending time with her and you can go

to the calender and point out when you last

spent time together that would probabaly work out;

hope i helped:]