Help! Major Boyfriend Issues...Please help!?

Question

Okay so my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 11 months, he is 18 and I am 17. I honestly love him so much , he is my everything, and I am completely in love with him. My family adores him, and his family loves me, everything is just about pefect, in our romance. There is just one problem, I ALREADY feel like we are married, and that my whole life is planned out ahead of me. According to both of us we do want to be together forever and have a family, and yes it does seem kinda crazy that a 17 year old and 18 year old already know this, but we are different than most couples. But that is besides the point, as I said I already feel as if we are married, and thatt's not good for a 17 year old to feel, as if my whole life is planned out for me. Sometimes I want to break up with him so I can explore other things, know other people, and finish up my youth a little bit more, because If I never do and we do end up getting married I may feel trapped or bored cause my whole life was just with him, and everything was kinda repetive. On the other hand I do not want to break up with him, not only is he my boyfriend, he is my best friend. I dont know what I would do without him, I would be depressed, sad and go crazy, it seems like I will never meet someone as great as him. So If anyone can help me PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do so!!!!

Answer 1

Hello,

here you go, hope you are ready. I often hear I am in love and he/she is my everything i can't live without him, but ! The everpopular BUT. For one if you feel trapped or feel someone else is making plans for you , you should stop it. Secondly, you are but 17 years old and have yet worlds to experience. I thought the same way you do, but was afraid to hurt my partner.Think fo this, how can you possibly make someone else happy if you yourself are not tryely happy? Finally, Don't make things happen, everythign that needs to, will fall into place. It may not happen as fast or as soon as you may want it to , but they will fall into place. One more thign you can't fix anything or change anything if you don't talk about it. I sure hope all works out for you.Bob  

Answer 2

If u truly love him and if he is yur life and your everything then stay with him, because if true then u have the greatest kind of love and don't want to loose it.  Plus if its that great then why do u want to experience anything else?  Are u really happy with him, if so then lay it down if not then move on and stop wasting both of ya'lls time

Answer 3

Funny thing is, youve already answered your own question.

You love him, he loves you and you feel that your life is planned out. That doesnt mean that it is. Your feelings are perfectly normal and understandable. You can stay with him if you choose, but dont get married. Dont move in together or make any life altering decisions like that until youve been together for a few years. You seem like your under the mistaken impression that you need to make these decisions right now, and you dont.  

Answer 4

Wow... well, saying you want to be with a boy for the rest of your life at 17 is a llittle absurd.  In your mind, you guys are diff than other couples, but in reality your mind needs to mature, as well as your heart.  Im not saying break up with him and move on to the next boy, but you need to mature so you can be a good wife and lover when you do get married, whether it be to him or another.  You're too young to think you'll be with this boy forever... Good luck!!!

Answer 5

Hi

I am a guy, having exactly the same feeling as you.. maybe slightly more considerations.

E-mail me? [e-mail]

Maybe we can both work out something to help ourselves .. i'm 20 btw :)