Help with a runaway?

Question

Heres the situation:

Me = 20 Him = 17.

A good friend of mine back from high school ran into some problems with the law (specifically drug charges, DUI w/ property damage at 17, etc.) and he messed up again. this time he didnt face problems with the law per say. as he wasnt charged with anything. He DID run from the police during a routine traffic stop, but I later found out that they did not press charges. (very lucky for him.)

Heres the General question:

He ran away from home, he is still a minor. He is still on probation from DUI charge, and he is upholding that obligation, from guidance from me. I am trying to get him to contact his parents, or to go back home, but he will not. I am afraid if I press too hard, or have his parents show up, he will be gone. He was out on the streets already, and he will do it again.

is there anything i can do to keep this legal? Like talk to the police or his parents? anythign I can do at all?

Thanks guys. He is currently staying with me.

Answer 1

talk to the police or call his parents.... talking is the best way to resolve the problem and if you can... get his guidance officer in high school. that's what they are there for ... to help the kids out. i don't care how much of a man he think he is.. he is still a child and should be counsel. he is too young to be getting in this much trouble. he needs some counseling and guidance. google it.

Answer 2

Turn him in, he is a minor so he can still turn his life around...but when U.S Marshall's come knocking on your door you will get a felony for knowingly hiding a fugitive.

Answer 3

As long as you are not harboring a fugitive from the law, you are not in any danger of legal repercussions.  However, if this person is considered a 'minor' in your state, you could be in some serious trouble.  Immediately contact the parents to avoid any possible law suits in the future.  Don't worry about this clown, because he certainly isn't worried about your or your situation.

Helping him to avoid his inevitable consequences is not helping him.  You are allowing him to think it's okay to evade his responsibility.  It is more important for him to face the consequences now than have to deal with the bigger issues of  life later.

You are not really being a 'friend' by harboring him.  Unless he has a terrible, life threatening situation at home, make him face his 'demons' now so he will learn early on that they aren't as terrible as he thought they were.  

Contact the parents and tell them the situation.  Don't leave them twisting in the wind wondering whether their child is dead or not.  Also, I would talk sense to him and tell him that the only sensible thing to do is to go home, especially  if he respects your safety and well-being.  If you get involved in a police raid to your home, man, that's a big bummer. Once you get in the "system" it will be years before you're cleared of that stigma.

Answer 4

Job Corps maybe what he needs check out the site, best of luck to ur friend.

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Answer 5

If he's on probation you could possibly get in trouble for knowing where he is and not saying anything. I know it's a really tough situation but you need to tell his parents. He might end up hating you, but it's not your fault he got in trouble.