How Important Are Looks

Question

In regards to our professional, persona, and emotional lives?

I am smart and kind and feel like my 'inside' is good, but my face, not so much.

Will looking like me: http://www.flickr.com/photos/28891892@N0...

hurt what I have going for me in terms of brains and heart?

I know I'm not attractive in the way society wishes.

hence, why I ask how important looks are you in your experiences and how screwed I am.

I don't have high cheek bones and my nosy is large and my lips are thin.

Definition of ugly in this society. Plus, no one likes me and avoids me when they look at me.

Answer 1

Do you know why you are ugly?

Because you think that you are and when you feel like that on the inside, it's impossible for other people to not look at you that way.

I personally don't think you're ugly at all, and looks aren't everything. Sure, they can be the first step in making a man become attracted to you, but after that it's ALL about personality, looks are what they are and they don't change everyday, they only go so far.

In professional, it's not about looks (depending on what job). If you can dress appropriately and get the job done, you're hired.

In persona, it may be more important but personality is WAY more important.. I can't even stress how much more important it is.

And in emotional lives, again, you are what you make of yourself. If you feel that you are ugly, then you are what you say you are. But if you're confident, then people are not focusing on your looks, they're focusing on your personality.

Having average looks isn't going to hurt you in terms of brains or heart. Anyone can look pretty with a little plastic surgery, but being smart is something that takes a lot of time.

Answer 2

it's alright. my lips are too high. my nose is too round. my eyes are odly shaped. i have really large cheeks. and my mouth is small but thick. i have broad shoulders. really curley thick brown hair that i spend hours just trying to tame. my **** are kind of wierd. i have a chubby belly. a ridiculously large ***, 46 inches around, stretch marks, arm flab, chubby fingers and a wierd big toe. not to mention large ankles.

and it's ridiculous how much i get complimented.

looks matter to you more than they matter to men.

Answer 3

Your photo is no longer available. However, ever notice how confidence is often much more attractive than classic beauty? Look around at people- even strangers- that you would consider 'attractive.' Are they actually pretty or do they carry themselves well? Attraction is a lot more than a perfect face and body.

Edited because I can see your photo now. You are very pretty. I don't know why you'd think otherwise.