How can I not be lonely?

Question

I find myself always looking for friends, but no one ever responds to my phone calls, emails, or invitations to hang out.

The few friends that Ive had in the past have backstabbed me and hurt me, others stood me up. I find myself always getting depressed because I always see people with many friends or that 1 person they can depend on, and I dont have anyone :/

any tips?

Answer 1

Start by being a friend. Volunteer/ do social work, ....you will meet like-minded people who will be your friends.

Answer 2

Get involved in more activities and meet new people

Answer 3

get a dog

Answer 4

I used to be like that and I ended up liking being by myself. For some reason that experience made me not need others around me.  I now have a family but not a lot of friends.

Answer 5

get a dog, they're loyal to the end

Answer 6

My tip is that I've completely given up on the idea of friendship.  I find that I give too much of myself up - for whatever reasons which probably go back for too long.  I always organize, plan, flatter, give, etc to others but in the end I can't remember the last time someone was as selfless with me.

Anyway, instead of losing any more nights' sleep and anguishing about it, I decided to stop feeling for myself, and I joined a place that's my hobby.  I happen to like playing tennis and I'm getting increasingly good.  I love it because I show up with my racket and it doesn't really matter who I am, what I do, etc.  I've met some nice people but I keep some distance.  It has literally saved my life.

There are so many organizations, interests, and clubs - dig down and find something you like.  I actually never thought I could play tennis, but I decided to give it a go.

Answer 7

Music.

Answer 8

It can't be every one is horrid and you are the victim so....

There may be some thing in your pesonality if your truley honest that needs work.......you can't change the people but you can change your self if your willing to look deep inside yourself.....there are many books related to the science of the mind.....work on your self first ....only then will you be able to sustain good relationships

Answer 9

Maybe you're trying too hard. Don't be obsessive about it. Just chill and be yourself. It's like looking for a significant other, it's when you least expect it that it happens out of nowhere. Try something totally different from what you are accustomed to doing. Go to places to hang out where you have never been before. Get a hobby that is totally new to you. Don't  be pushy about hanging out with your so called 'friends'.

Answer 10

i think everyone exsperiences thigns to help them grow. and the stronger you are the harder life is, but you can deal with it! one day soemthing is going to happen and this wont matter anymore. jsut find your excape like writting or music or soemthing like that. if you ever just wnat to talk you can e-mail me, im always willing listen. but im only 16 so haha sorry if you dont wnat to talk to a teenager. good luck tho, im sure everything will be great oneday, just belive!

Answer 11

Friends always let you down in some way, not living up to expectations.  I wouldn't beat myself up over it...nothing is wrong with you.  Focus on your family, because they will always be there for you when friends won't.  Focus on the family and THE RIGHT friends will fall into place.