How do I deal with competition?

Question

In my school, there's a program called JROTC. I'm going to become a sophomore. My older sister who just left for college was the second highest rank in this program. Everyone knew her and to me, she made her high school years perfect. She did well in school, made lots of friends, smiles alot, etc. Everytime I just walk around, people ask if I'm okay or if I'm mad...I wish I can make my high school years similiar to hers and just be happy...but there's so much girls that are outgoing, bubbly, etc. One of them was my best friend but we broke apart and she's making herself known and getting everything she wants (it seems) even though she's a total snob and everyone hates her..I'm supposed to be better than that cause my sister is a high rank...I really want this rank my senior year but i don't think i can do it cause all the outgoing, suck-up girls want it... and you kinda have to be friendly and suck up to the teachers to get the ranks...i don't know if i can do it...i don't know if i can make great friends...

Answer 1

Firstly you should never compare yourself to your siblings, speaking as a person with 2 older siblings I understand what you mean about competition. There's always pressure to be as good or better than your sister. But it won't do you any good to try and be like her, when your not like her.

You should never think that other people are better than you. Try and be proud of yourself and make your own friends. High school is for making friends, not for constant pressure and competition (though they do tend to coincide often).

You'll make friends, everyone does. Just because you won't be friends with everyone (which isn't possible ) doesn't mean you can't rank.  

Just have fun and don't stress yourself, but most importantly have confidence.

Good luck, and have fun ;)

Answer 2

Become apathetic.

Answer 3

follow your heart

that's what I do