How do I get past it?

Question

I really wanna have another baby. My son is gonna be 1 'n a half September 8 so I think it'd be the perfect time. He's not too young 'n not too old. I was on the depo for a yr. 'n just got off it in April of '08.. everybody around me I know is pregnant 'n it's makin' me very sad. I'm not sure how to deal wit it. Seems like I keep tryin' 'n the more I try, I'm only tryin' for somebody else. Please help. I wish one of these women were me.

Answer 1

Have you tried charting?  I got pregnant one month after stopping the pill. I was on it for 3.5 years. I found charting sorta took the guess work out of it for me. You can go to www.fertilityfriend.com and try it for free. They give you lessons and answers questions that you may have. You need to go out and get a basal body thermometer. You take your temp the same time each single morning and it will take all the guess work out of knowing when you are ovulating. Hope this helps!

Answer 2

Don't feel bad, those other preggo girls are probably feeling bad for you.  My best friend tried for four years for her first and I got pregnant 1 year before her with no problem, then a month after her I was pregnant again.  Your cervix could have tilted after your first.  Try having s*x with a pillow under your bottom.  Just keep trying...It could happen very soon...

Answer 3

Well you know you can get pregnant and already have a baby. I think if you tried now their ages would be a good amount apart. But It's up to you and your husband. Just enjoy what you have right now and know that there are many women pregnant out there but there are just as many or more who are having problems becoming pregnant. Don't be jealous of the other women, be happy for them.  

Answer 4

you were on the depo!!!  me to and I was told that it could take up to 1year to get pregnant...good luck I am in the same boat as you ..

Answer 5

I had to have a good talk with myself about what kind of friend I wanted to be.  I hope like all get out to be a parent (TTC#1 for 20 months) but if I am or not I want my friends and family to know I love them and am here for them.  Now I don't want to pretend it's easy...on the contrary, it isn't.  But I try to concentrate more on them than on me.  I know for me this last 20 months has been a real learning experience on how to not be self focused.  Good luck to you!!!

Answer 6

Everybody copes with this differently.  I couldn't have children with my husband and we had to wait 7 years before I got pregnant, and I would cry every mother's day as I would go to church and every women in there would be given a flower to celebrate them as mother's and I would go home empty handed.  Since you have a child, I would do my best during this time to focus on your precious little one and be thankful that if you never got pregnant again, you had the chance of a lifetime to experience the beauty of motherhood and all that goes along with it with this little bundle of joy.  Believe me, I know how painful it is to watch those around you announcing their pregnancies whlie you're still waiting for your time.  I'm sure your time will come soon enough, just be thankful that you are still able to have children... some women will live their entire life never knowing what it is like to carry a child.