How do i release my anger?

Question

im 12 years old and a small 6th grader. theirs this 8th grader easily 2-3 times my size. he always talks about some perv. things. like (doing) my sister. it ticks me off. he adds in those disgusting details. When i get off the school bus, im mad at 2 people 1) him for talking about my sister like that. and 2) me for not resolving the problem. anytime i get off the bus, i have a intense pain in my heart area. i just cant handle it. (i just got off the bus. its happening now) please help.

Answer 1

Tell the principal about your bullying situation.

When I'm mad I hit a pillow screaming "F*CK YOU PILLOW!!"

Answer 2

the feeling that you need to protect your sister it a great thing and I'm so proud of you for having it. Unfortunately you are in a situation where you cant. you can tell the principal of your school. Tell them specifically that you do not want your name given to the boy who is harassing you because you do not want the repercussions (dont want to get beat up or make things worse) of them knowing who told, BUT you must tell someone that he is speaking this way on the bus, it is improper. Do not be angry with yourself for not responding to this idiots teasing. You are a good brother. Hopefully the school will help, if not tell your parents.

Answer 3

calm down sweetie hes just a boy all boys are like that at that age so just take a deep breath and scream if you need to

Answer 4

Sounds like horrible bullying!  You are doing well by not responding, but need some help to deal with this offensive behavior.  

Is there a school nurse or counselor you could talk to?  Discuss how you feel physically ill as a result of this ongoing harassment.  The school ought be able to support you while on campus, and if his behavior is inappropriate on the bus, he may have his bus privileges revoked, leaving him to find a way home thru his own parents.

Know that this kid may just grow up being a jackass if some adults in his life don't step in.  Sorry he's chosen you as his most current target.  

Get backup.  You deserve it.

As far as dealing with the anger, right now you may need a good cry, punch up the couch cushions, write a letter or narrative about what's going on to give the school nurse, draw or paint, talk to a good friend, or choose a sport with a ball you can bash the heck out of.

Answer 5

Instead of feeling pain, you should tell your sister or guidance counselor about it and if the 8th grader keeps making those comments tell the teacher or whoever is incharge at the moment.

Answer 6

Its important to release the anger because if you bottle it up the anger turned inward is depression.  You could try sitting in the very front, he may not act like an a** by an adult.  If he knows he is getting to you he will probably continue.  I would try and ignore the dumb stuff he says. Easier said than done.  O.k. here is how to do it.  Count to ten, concentrate real hard on something you like baseball, the beach your favorite song.  Think about the most pleasant thing that has ever happened to you, take lots of deep breaths, force yourself to smile.  This causes endorphins feel good critters to be released in the brain improving your mood.  You have to hold the smile for like 30 sec. though. Try it in the mirror it really works.  hitting the pillow is great to but not in the moment.  If you need to let off steam after you get off the bus, ride a scooter, go for a run do pushups paint anything constructive.  Watch your self talk, once it is over you can get yourself worked up by what you choose to think about.  If you catch this happening force yourself to think of something that is less severe. Like if you are thinking I hate that guy, I wish he were dead, change some of the thought to yeah, he's rather unpleasant, but amusing.  If he escalates further tell someone an adult if that person doesn't listen keep telling till someone does.  If you can talk your parents into martial arts class it would do many things.  Be a great confidence booster, increase self-awareness, discipline, responsibility, and possibly intimidate that dumb a** into leaving you alone.  Good luck

Answer 7

a burn book, a punching pillow, an angry letter, but don't send it =\

Answer 8

What does ur father say about it?

Answer 9

It helps to listen to your favorite song. Even songs that are soothing but not your favorite work. Just try to calm yourself, tell yourself that although you are a 6th grader you're probably smarter than that stupid 8th grader. I mean, you have to be smarter since he's the one saying those ridiculous things. And who cares about that idiot anyway? Also think of your favorite things, maybe watch your favorite movie or something. The best advice I can give you is to immerse yourself in your favorite things: books, movies, songs, anything that can get your mind off of that bully and soothe you. I'd even suggest taking a nice hot shower, even if you don't need it. TRUST ME!  That works really well to just stand in the shower- in the steam and water. It's refreshing and soothing.

Answer 10

If you have a punching bag, punch into. Or what I like to do is bang on my drums really hard lol.

Answer 11

1st thing is I would go and tell your counsler or principal what he is doing then find something to do where i could vent my anger theres alot of ways nobody can tell you how to do it you got to find it yourself but mine is playing guitar. don't let this anger build up or you are gonna drive yourself crazy or take it out on the wrong person.

Answer 12

You need to talk to a nurse or a counselor regarding this, someone you trust. Hit a pillow, scream in a pillow, write a letter and never send it. go for a run, good luck to you

Answer 13

My mum always told me when i want to release anger, scream into my pillow and punch it, it worked great. She also told me to write a letter to the person but never give it to them.

You doing good not reacting to an idiot like this guy, try to shrug it off a little more.

Answer 14

It might help if you talked to your sis, and tell her that it really bothers you. I learned a few techniques.

1. Count to ten, walk away, and take a breath.

2. Scream into your pillow

3. punch your pillow

4. dont think about it.

Answer 15

You should really tell your bus driver about this and your parents. Its not teasing or anything, its called sexual harassment.

Answer 16

It is not ok for this boy to be talking to you this way at all. You can involve your teacher or your bus driver. You are a minor and they are responsible for you, him speaking to you in a way that makes reference to s*x is not acceptable and is a form of harassment. His parents obviously have not taught him well, and now it falls in your lap to stick up for yourself and fix this. You do not have to take it all insidde and allow it to get to you- you can tell him to stop, you can make a big deal about it, you can defend yourself. There will be so many more things in the coming years where you will have to deal with people who are lees than cool, and this is a first lessson for you on how to handle it. Talk to someone (even your parents or sister) and enlist their help in speaking to someone at the school that can put a stop to this. Good luck!