How should I approach my dad...?

Question

So this will more than likely sound really dumb but I am planning on going to Colorado in September to look at some schools and visit a friend (I live in MN) and I'm really scared to tell my dad about it. The thing is I'm 19, I still live at home with my mom and she is fine about it but I'm really scared to tell him. So does anyone have any advice on how I can approach him? Either way I plan on going but I really don't want to be a disappointment to him. Thank you in advance!

Answer 1

Put together a list of all your pro's and explain to him why this would be a good move for you and that you'll always be in touch. I don't know what your relationship is like w/your dad, but it's worth a shot.

Answer 2

I don't understand why you are afraid to talk with your father?  Every young person going away to college goes to check out the Universities to see where they want to go.  He should be glad that you will have a friend to stay with instead of having to stay in a motel.

If you live with your mom and she says it's OK to go, then don't worry about what your dad will say.  You said you were going any way regardless of what he said.  Don't ask his permission, just tell him you are going.

Have fun!

Answer 3

Anything as a parent he should know, have your facts upfront and well researched.  Put yourself in his position; what would be his main concern, what does he need to know, and if there is problem who is the contact person and how will it be handled?  At this point, he needs to know that you are truly ready to leave the nest.