How to Get out of Navy?

Question

My fiancee has been in the navy for about 9 months now and he hates it. He doesn't want to be in anymore and now they just sent him far and his phone don't work so he has to get off the ship just to call me and soon they are sending him half way around the world and he will be there for the rest of his four years. I think I am pregnant, not positive if I am yet, and he just wants to come home to support me and be with our baby. How can he get out of the navy with out ruining any jobs he pursues in the future outside of the navy? We really can't take it anymore. If anyone has gotten out please tell us how i need my fiancee back.

Answer 1

I knew a guy in the Navy who spent his days pretending to be riding a motorcycle wherever he went. He did his job well and always followed orders, but he just pantomimed the motorcycle as he moved from place to place, he also mimicked the sound of the throttle “Vroom, vroom!”   He did this for close to a year when he was finally ordered to take a psychiatric evaluation. He “rode his motorcycle” to the shrink’s office and insisted that it was indeed real,  he was ordered to undergo another three months of evaluations, they re-stationed him to   a barracks room on base, because he was deemed too unstable to serve aboard the ship.  When he was not attending psychiatric tests, he was assigned to busy work on base, all the while he continued to ride his motorcycle wherever he went, even on liberty. Finally it was decided that he should be discharged. Then one day he was ordered to come aboard the ship to fill out his final separation paperwork. He rode his motorcycle the whole time, finally when the last form was signed he rode his motorcycle to the quarterdeck, requested permission to go ashore. It was granted and he rode down the brow to the peer and he engaged the “brakes” he then looked up towards the Petty Officer of the Watch and said “Hey Catch.” He then threw an imaginary object into the air. The Petty Officer of the Watch (Who was a friend of his) asked “What’s that?” and he looked him in the eye and said “Those are the keys to my motorcycle, I don’t need it anymore.”  

Answer 2

Tell the Navy that you've gone g*y.

Answer 3

He made a commitment and must serve his time.  If he is so immature and such a whiner that he can't man up and fulfill his commitment, I can't see him sticking it out for a lifetime of Fatherhood.  Both of you sound like spoiled, whinny brats.  

Answer 4

I'm not going to tell him to "man up" or some other statement but I think you both need to sit down and determine the pro's and con's of what you are attempting to do. You are looking at the glass half empty and you need to look at the the other half. The Navy can be a very helpful thing if you are having a baby and you will need to get married to take advantage of this.

This is only 4 years and that can seem like a long time when you are young but it really isn't. He needs to be looking at how he can position himself to get the MOST out of his Navy experience. He needs to ask what am I going to take away from this when my time is up?   I too was ready to get out after my first 2 years but I stuck it out and the Navy payed for my college degrees(which were also tough to achieve) which provides for me and my family today.

I don't understand the tears about him being sent half way around the world? This is the Navy and you both know that this is part of the job and what is bad about seeing some of the world.

  Did you ever think that after two years perhaps he could get shore duty after this deployment which will probably take him until his discharge date? Thats a lot of time home with you and the baby with pay, insurance, a roof and food for all.

Deployments are tough but you need to find it within yourselves to get through tough times because once you get in the civilian world they can happen there too! You will come out of this experience stronger and tougher people....

Answer 5

Get him to declare himself a pacifist or a Secular Humanist. That usually works out.

Answer 6

Wow! A total non-hacker.  Get him out of the military now.  He sure sounds like a drama queen or he's B.S. ing you.  He aint gonna spend a full 3 yrs 3mo at some overseas duty station.  All he's gotta do is say he's a q***r.  Homosexual.  They'll let him go.  Well, I don't know.  It's the Navy.  They may keep him around for awhile.  Hope this helps.

Answer 7

Ok. Chances of him getting a general discharge is slim to none. If he flipped out in basic he could have gotten a discharge on the "Failure to adapt" grounds. But being 9 months in, the Navy has already spent alot of time and money getting him through basic,A School,duty station, and deployments(If he has had any). Your best bet is for him to get permission from his commander officer to marry you(Yes you need permission to get married if you are not already married and on active duty). If you get that you will get to move with him. Of course the Navy is a terrible branch to be in when you have a husband/wife,bf/gf,etc, and he will be gone alot. But you would see him a h**l of alot more than 30 days a year. You would see him at least 4-5 months a year total.

I almost signed with the Navy myself. I am instead going for the Air Force so that I can see my fiance around 6-8 months a year during deployments, and can go as much as seeing her everyday for a year, but it all varies.

I wish you the best of luck. But try to get married, it'll be your best chance of seeing each other.

Joe

Answer 8

Two things.  First, he can't get out of the Navy at this point without ruining job opportunities in the future.  It just can't happen that way.  Even if he provides an adequate reason to get out, his discharge papers will reflect that he didn't follow through with his commitment to the Navy.  He needs to stick it out and you need to be SUPPORTING him instead of telling him how much you miss him, how much you need him, blah blah blah...  It's time for both of you to grow up.  He enlisted in the Navy.  What did the two of you think that meant?  What did you expect... that they really didn't MEAN he'd have to be overseas, or on a ship, or stationed away from home?  

Second, NOBODY in civilian life gets 30 days vacation each year.  So don't whine about him "only" getting 30 days leave per year.  I've been on my government job 10 years and just got to 15 days vacation time per year.  You should count yourself lucky he's got a job in this economic market, that he's getting job skills, that once you're married you'll have a place to live with rental assistance, and you should be proud that he's serving his country.  

Answer 9

He has to stick it out. He can't get out because he decided he doesn't like it now and doesn't want to move. He needs to suck it up.  

Answer 10

your fiancee should've known this better

hate to say this but... the military isn't a place where you can get in and out that easy. If he is stuck to it, there's nothing much he can do but to stay with it. there might be a way out, but i promise you i will cost a lot. all he can do now is wait, something might happen, who knows.

wait a year or two, then try to change his NEC, to another job or station. if he get injured bad enough he might get honorable discharged.

  

Answer 11

GOTTA WAIT FOR HIS CONTRACT TO EXPIRE

Answer 12

The easy answer is he can dishonorably discharge, but that will black ball em for a good long time. He could try to convince them he's a concentious objector but the chances he could convince them are practically zero, even actual ones have a rough time but its worth a shot. He could always attempt the g*y route, or go for a medical discharge, maybe mentally unstable, but once again hard to proove and may cause damage to his future career goals. Where ever he is stationed if you get married to him you could apply for military housing where he is or BAH pay (once you get married and become a DEER). Serving out his enlistment is the easiest and best thing he could do. Either way, good luck.

Answer 13

I have to say first that I really dislike the keyboard warriors that immediately attack every question like this.

Unfortunately people who have dealt with it are more interested in beating you up because it would make them feel it is "unfair" for someone else to not have to deal with what they have. Or they feel that because they grunted through and bore all the stress on their backs and without help it makes them superior to you.

My answer to your question is that their are a number of ways out. Unfortunately at this juncture there is no possibility of saying "I quit" and walking away quietly. I have seen it tried.

I cannot suggest a method for getting out, but if it were me and I were in a dire situation, I would have searched for the types of discharge that exist. Research the ways service members can get those discharges. Research the extent of the repercussions as much as I could. Pick 1 and roll with it.

From what I understand, they are taking it easier on UA/AWOL right now and simply processing as many people out with OTH's as quickly as they can because their are simply too many.

An OTH is no where near as serious as half the people here make it sound. I have hired, and worked with many people who have them. I have known people who have received them. OTH's will SOMETIMES hurt you for government work and security clearances. SOME police agencies will not hire you, SOME will. And SOME states make it illegal to discriminate based on military record.

A dishonorable discharge in my mind is never worth it, unless you are being forced to violate some ethos or ideology you absolutely believe in.

However, to bring this long long post to a close. I think your fiance needs to work with his command some, or ask his command for help. Once you are married you are entitled to certain things in the military. Before you guys go doing the crazy stuff, ask the questions that involve "How do we cope while being in the military."

Answer 14

He signed the dotted line to serve the country, tell him to MAN UP!!!  Did he get a bonus upon signing?  If so, now that it's gone, now he wants out???  We don't need people like that.  Military men/women protect and defend each other.    

Answer 15

well first off this is illegal.

but if you wanted to you would have him act and tell that he thinks the war is wrong and will not kill another person because they are probably just the same exact person back at home. like not wealthy and fighting for the wealthy

Answer 16

Tell him to go to his CO and offer him a BJ. He will be out in 24 hours. Seriously your fiancee made a deal and he will just have to stick it out. If you are preggers then make arrangements to meet the ship at it's next port of call and get married then you will get medical and Quarters and Rations allotment.

Answer 17

do what stewie griffin did and have someone shoot you in the foot for a honorary discharge.

Answer 18

If there is a strong reason to get discharge one can submit a requisition one may be consider to give a premature retirement

Answer 19

The only way to get out is to finish his enlistment.  How immature is he for joining then wanting to get out.  He should have known what he was getting into.  It is nothing new.  What a total baby!