How to get over a girl?

Question

so theres this girl and shes my one of my best and closest friends. she confides in me for basicaly her entire life's story, she has had a lot of bad things happen to her in the past. this will be the 4th year that she has lived here, and i have liked her since the first day i saw her, i REALY like her, but she has never liked me back, even though im the only guy that gives a care about her. shes hot, so shes got a few guys after her, but they r after her body not her heart. but i want to get over her cause i have told her a few times that i care a lot for her and i want our friendship to go to the next level, but she allways says that she doesnt like me that way. and (this may sound kinda pathetic) but she really makes me feel depressed a lot, i almost wish i could just get her out of my life completely, but i know that im the only one that she trusts with her problems, but it really hurts me when she starts talking about other guys and how hot they r and stuff, then telling me how she likes them, while being fully aware that i like her. now i know u might be thinking "move on, get over it" and stuff like that but i have tried and its not that easy, i love her...i cant get her out of my mind, but she just makes me feel so depressed cause i know i will never get a chance with her. this is pretty much the problem, but it goes a bit deeper then that. but plz leave me some ideas on how i can get over her, but without taking her out of my life. cause i like the fact that she trusts me so much, but i dont know how to get over her without just avoiding her/taking her out of my life...so plz help and ty very much for it =)

Answer 1

You're clinging to the hope that she may change her mind. You dont want to get over her. She obviously doesnt see you in the same light and talks about other guys to make it clear to you that she aint pining for you. And the answer 'not right now' thats french for i told you already how i feel. Can we just drop the subject?

Im afraid its impossible for you to get over her and also have her in your life when you're carrying a huge torch for her and are not ready to put it out.    

Answer 2

I am so sorry that you are stuck in this situation. You sound like a wonderful and caring guy, and she is very lucky to have a friend like you. However, I think she is being a bit manipulative. You said that she talks about guys she likes, even though she knows that you like her. You have to tell her how this makes you feel, as awkward and hard as it is. Pour out your feelings to her, and see how she reacts. Good luck, and I know that everything will work out for the best.