How to not feel guilty.

Question

Ok. i am a 15 year old boy and my 10 year old brother is treating me like dirt, even though i do things for him and 3/4 of the time i don't deserve his treatment. My granparents say he takes the p**s, but i carry on regardless. Today he was being extra bad, even though he woke me up to do stuff for him. Later on he was bad and I gave him a piece of my mind, then later he swore at me and i started hitting him and i called him fat, when usually i try to reasure him that hes not. I feel really guilty for hitting him and calling him fat and i dont know if i should. help please.

Answer 1

first don't hit or put your hands on anyone.  i understand your fustration.  i have a younger brother and i've been there done that. i was always in trouble.  

sit down with him and your parents and say how you feel. tell him you are not doing anything for him.  he has to do his own stuff.  whatever that is.  you are helping him abuse you.  just don't do anything for him let him do it himself.  you have nothing to feel guilty about. hope this helps - good luck.

Answer 2

When he misbehaves and acts like a 10 year old, you have to remember that he's 10.  It's good to set boundaries and it sounds like he needs them.  At that age, kids are still learning them.  The first step is to tell him to stop when he's bugging you.  If he doesn't, then you ignore him.  He only does these things to get attention.  Even negative attention, because that is better than being ignored.  If you ignore him and his bad behavior, he will learn that only positive, respectful behavior is acceptable.  And you have set a boundary with him.

In the short term regarding the guilt, an apology would be the courageous thing.  Tell him you're sorry.  Tell him how you felt when he was bugging you.  Do not make your hitting and telling him he was fat HIS fault.  It wasn't.  Only you are responsible for your actions.  But he needs to know that you're sorry.  It will be very healing for both of you.  However, be aware that he might use this as a way of continually guilting you about it.  Just apologize and move forward.  If he tries to guilt you, know that you've apologized and feel badly about what you did.  You don't need to continue to feel badly about it.  Take it as a lesson learned, and now you know how not to react when the situation arises again.

Answer 3

i have 3 younger sisters who use to annoy the h**l out of my some times, and purposely do things to make me mad or get me in trouble. I even hit and swore at them too. The best thing to do is ignore him give him the silent treatment, he will be mad for at 1st for not talking, but will miss you being his big brother in no time... and will do any thing to make you talk to him again :) hope it works... always did for me... just act dissapointed in him.......

Answer 4

ok you need to act like the bigger brother.  he is 1o he is going to do anything to get his cool big brothers attention.  you need to tell him tat you are sorry and talk to im about wat e is doing and if e continues to treat you like this then you are going to be spending less time with him.  maybe you need to expain to him that the way you treat people will make people want people to be around you or not wat to be around you at all.