How to overcome shyness! 10 POINTS + + + +?

Question

Hello ,

im 15

and im shy

but only infront of guys i like and new people

can someone help me ?

and if anyone has overcome thier shyness, can you tell me how?

thankyou :)

Answer 1

Shyness isn't bad - society says it is, but it's not. It's just a different personality type. Extroverts suck, don't pretend to be one of them.  

Answer 2

do something embarissing and you will get over it, cause the worst has allready happened then rite!!! good luk hun

Answer 3

you just got to push yourself into speaking to people you dont know. heres a handy tip - think of a few subjects beforehand that relate to yourself eg, if you like big brother ask them "have you been watching big brother recently?" if they say yes then you can natter about that for ages! even if they say no, you can ask them "what tv do you watch?" they should watch something! it doesnt even have to be about tv. ask about celebs you like (their opinion on them), bands your into (whether they are into them too) and at the end of your convo, just say "well i have to go, it was nice meeting you we should get together some time!" if you were interesting (and hopefully you were, but dont worry about that just be yourself) then they'll be dying to go out and muck about with you! result - instant new friend  (or if you were flirty) instant new potential bf.

just make the first move, it may be hard. but nothing in this world comes to you on a silver platter. if you want something, go out and get it.

Answer 4

Have you considered going into a convent? Nobody talks in there.

Answer 5

just be normal get talking your be fine

Answer 6

shyness ,is just being careful , you don't want to get your feeling hurt and you don't want to hurt nobody feeling find a good subject that you like talking about  as you start talking about it , you will be forget about your shyness   and  being able to talk about any thing

Answer 7

This is going to sound mondo stupid but you really jsut have to make the first move obviously this guy likes you and so if you have to get to know him first tell him to bring you to his favorite concerts ( not much talking) and movies ( not much talking) and if you have mutual friends ask them what hes like so you feel like you know him more. there will allways be the butterfly in your stomach but the best way to silence them is to hop right on out of your shell and open a conversation with him he will uber appreciate that you did it

Answer 8

it comes with experience, as you get older you will get more confident

Answer 9

i was shy with girls for a long time, until i was about 21, then decided not to be anymore, never looked back since, can make the pretty girls smile, and the nice ones laugh. am not shy, just think i like to be myself and not care about others, but i still try to shrug it off in a nightclub environment, hope it helped a bit...

Answer 10

Hey, I have the same problem as you except im like it all the time and I can't make simple friends easily either.

Maybe if you meet somebody new then just imagine that you have met them before.  TIP.. try and think positive thoughts, not negative ones.  

Did you feel unfullfilled when you hardly spoke to the guy for 11 months?

Do you feel extremely shy?

Are you scared around a lot of people?

This website might help: http://www.social-anxiety.org.uk/

Just remember that this guy is interested in you and thats why he wants you to go to his house!

Hope this helps doll.

=]

Answer 11

You cannot change your personality. If you are shy, there is nothing you can do to become less shy. You just need to go for it and say anything that's on your mind. It may have some bad effects at first, but people will soon get to realise that you're more than some quiet kid.

Answer 12

Kiss and hug somebody

Answer 13

http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Shyness

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Answer 14

There are two books I would highly recommend for you to read.

"Feeling Good" by David Burns

"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie

Overcoming shyness is not easy, but if you read these books and do what they say, I think they will help you.

Answer 15

well think about this try to meet a variety of people if ur not shy around ur girll friends thats good have them introduce you to  guys and hang out with lots of girls less guys ull find talking easier that way then once u get realy comfortable lessen the number of girls in the group etc and the more variety you see the easier it will be to be less shy

Answer 16

I would say as you face more situations you feel uncomfortable in your confidence will grow. It just because you are not used to the people and unsure how to deal with the situation. Each time you face it you will become more and more confident. There is no quick fix just exposure to the situations.  

Answer 17

whenever i'm shy in front of a boy I just pretend i'm an actress, it gives me the confidence I need as I don't feel like my normal shy self.

Or you can talk to some of your friends that are boys & maybe they can help you.

Hope this helped (:  

Answer 18

Rishab had the right idea! But let me add something:

I used to be very very shy. Here is huge secret to overcoming your shyness and gaining self esteem.

JUST ASK QUESTIONS. This is so easy because you don't have to say anything smart, or better, etc. Just agree and ask another.

This saves you from talking yourself, and the best part is it is flattering and he/she will like you. People love to talk about themselves.

Read any book on social improvement, or books like "Winning friends" by Carnegie, and they all say the same thing. Ask questions about anything. Where you from, brothers/sisters, favorite tv show, what do you do for a living (or what are you going to college for).  

There are endless questions you can ask people, and they will never stop answering and they will love you for it.

Answer 19

hey honey i no all about being shy, i over come mine by thinkin of the guy as "an old friend" think of him as your best friend, not your crush, cus lets face it, you nevr run out of things to say with your best feriend!!

the relationship at 13, wel you wer 13, it wasnt gona last was it??lol

have a little more confidence honey, he likesyou too, and he wants to hang out with you!! go you, you already got him after you.....so you must be doin something right, just remember that an you'l get more confidence!!

good luck

Answer 20

i was like that when i was 15, i got so fed up of being different in front of people i didnt know compared to my friends. The thing is that you just have to be yourself. Even though its really hard to pump yourself up to start speaking normally, you just have to let it come like you would with your friends. Things that you would talk to your friends about, just bring it up in the conversation,. When you think how many more friends you would have if you were a little mre confident. :) Goodluck xx

Answer 21

First you have to question why your shy (even though the majority of the population experience it too at some time).

The main reason why shyness arrives is because we are worried about what other people think of us, we are scared of being criticised, judged or laughed at.

But the fact is no matter how confident you are you will still experience people condemning, judging, laughing at you, its a fact you cannot do anything about that, fact...but you can change your attitude to it.

How do we gain self-confidence and self eseem?

We get it by confronting our fears and problems head on and oovercomingthem.  Once we do that we become more confident because of what we have come through and achieved.

Push the boat out, try many new things dont worry about failure the importand thing is you try and achieve new experiences.

For a ship is safe in the harbour but thats not what ships were built for.

The more you do with your life the more colerful and interseting you will be because of all your experiences leaving plenty to talk about.  But ist more important to listen than talk, be a good listener.  Rather than worrying about what to talk about, show an interest and ask him question about himself to get to know him.

What do you think about that....?

Haw do you feel about that.......?

Whats your passion in life........?

Whats you plans?

Just ask interesting questions

Answer 22

It's so hard being shy and it's not something that you can change overnight.

Perhaps you can ask him questions about himself.  Guys like talking about themselves, their hobbies or how their day went.  When you are interested in that other person, it will make them more interested in you.

Maybe before you meet him write down a few things you think you could ask him and keep them in your mind.  Of course, don't take the list.

He may feel shy too, so keep that in mind and concentrate on how you can make him feel comfortable in the situation. When you're thinking of the other person's feelings instead of your own, you will then find how much less shy you have become as you talk.

Good luck!:)

Answer 23

I have beaten shyness

I REALLY want to help you. I know JUST how you feel.!

First thing I did was step back. I made a list of all the things that make me shy. Then i put them into negative and positive catorgories. EG. Boys = positive (its normal to be shy around boys) Family = Negative (familes are always there for you and you shouldnt have to feel that way around them) Listing fears that make you renvous is great aswell. If this doesnt work then start asking yourself "Would my life be better if I went out once in a while. If i talked to this guy?" Making lists is a GREAT way to overcome shyness. I have to admit I did overcome it... but doing something VERY silly in public. nothing rude. I just went up to a random guy in a shopping center and asked him out... i got rejected but it helped. however i DONT recommend doing that. Beating shyness is not something you have to do alone. Get a group of friends to help you. If they are shy too its even better, you can overcome it together. Start slowly and NEVER EVER do anythign that makes you feel uncomfortable. If you do it could be like stepping one step forward and taking 20 back. Take it at your own pace and remember how much better your life would be if you were a little more outgoing. thats your goal :]

Answer 24

   1. Make a commitment to walk away from shyness.

   2. Note the situations where you feel shyness holding you back most strongly.

   3. The next time you are in this situation, do something just a little bit more outgoing than you would normally do (smile, make eye contact, ask a question, etc.).

   4. Relax and remember that mistakes help you learn.

   5. Repeat steps 1-4 until you have reached your desired level of 'outgoingness.'

Tips:

   1. As you know, this can be a really tough process. Don't give up.

   2. Once you cycle through the steps a few times it gets easier and easier.

   3. It takes a lot of practice, hard work, and guts to beat this thing.