How would you respond?

Question

my bf and i have been together for 4 yrs, living together for 3. i will admit i get jealous when he looks at other women or they flirt with him.one time we were out at a local pub that we go to on occasion and a female "friend" of his came up to him, flirting and "spelled" out the word, "trouble" on his chest, face, up to the top of his head. he's all blushing and smiling. i didn't like it, felt uncomfortable and he knew it. then recently we were shopping but went into different stores. when we got back together he told me how he ran into "bimbo" (not her real name) ;) in the store. he could tell by my silence and knowing how i am, that i didn't like it. so he said, "i don't care if you don't like her, i like her. i think she's a hot ticket".

i'm just wondering how would you respond?

Answer 1

I'd tell him that ticket'd better be hot enough to get him through all the long cold frigid nights to come...

Answer 2

People say that I'm flirty. My husband doesn't like it so he kindly told me how he felt about it. I asked him to communicate to me while I was being flirty so that I could see what he was talking about (in an un-obvious way of course). After a few months I learned what he was talking about & decided to change my behavior.

My suggestion would be to talk to him about it with NO attitude & be honest with him. Ask him if he sees what you mean or something. I find that if I can make my husband think its his idea to change something it works out best.

Something else that had really helped our communication is when I talk to him I don't get emotional. He is able to hear what I'm saying rather than try to stop me from crying or clam me down so his focus is on me & not my emotion. I know it sounds stupid but it really works :)

Answer 3

well you guys have already been together for 4 yrs..any signs of marriage in the near future? why would he fully commit to you if he is not married to you? hes getting all the benefits of marriage so he is getting the best of both worlds right now...

technically by you guys not being married, he can do what he wants to do..i mean its obvious that he doesn't want to be fully committed to you by allowing these other women to disrespect you and by telling you he doesn't care if you don't like her, she's a hot ticket??? whats up with that? the writing is on the wall, he's not ready to be fully committed to you...he cares nothing about you or your feelings, he's getting what he wants ( s*x, you always there for him etc) without being married... why wouldn't he still have his cake and eat it too?? that's probably an ideal situation for 90% of the men out here!

Answer 4

don't make the mistake of marrying him he doesn't care for you only his needs. he's selfish and not worth your time if you marry him though i don't no if your looking down that road then your signing up for a life of unhappiness get out now.

Answer 5

I'd get my own apartment and start living my life the way I wanted to live it.......there is NO future in this relationship; he doesn't respect you one bit

Answer 6

I'd smack him.  Then walk away.  And not give him s*x for at least a week.

Answer 7

I'd move out.

Answer 8

tell him you can't survive in this relationship if he keeps doing that and it's either he try to stop or its over and your moving out

Answer 9

id make sure he knew that (some random male friend) was a hot ticket too!! and i would do it often...watch him. he sounds like he is up to no good

Answer 10

That was very inappropriate for him to say to you.

If i was you i would dump him and let him go be with the bimbo if he thinks she is so hot.

He doesn't sound like he is worth being with.

Answer 11

WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO LIVE THE REST OF LIFE WITH A MAN THAT DOSENT RESPECT.MOVE ON BCUZ HE WILL GIVE YOU ALOT OF TROUBLE IN YOUR LIFE.ITS SEEMS THAT HE IS VERY DISRESPECTFUL AND A FLIRT AND IF YOUR JEALOUS IT WILL NEVER WORKOUT.

Answer 12

By popping him up side his head

Answer 13

have a threesome,dont be so shy anne

Answer 14

Well tell him he can "like" her and "be" with her and you go out and find you a REAL MAN! Seriously though, all men will always look at other women and check them out. INEVITABLY! But just remember he doesn't have to brag about it and belittle you...really he has no respect for you...I would move on...