I cant stop lying? Help?!?!?

Question

Well, ever since i was about 13.

( im coming on 16 ).

Ive been lieing to everyone.... ive never been caught lieing ive become that good at it, but for what purpose....? i can instantly tell when some-ones lying to me i just know, but im lying to everyone about who i am, because i feel like society would not accept me for who i truly am, only one person knows and i love her to bits and she loves me to. this is the real me ;

I'm sweet romantic,

Mature for my age,

I care to much,

I'm not a total pervert like alot of guy's,

And im a vergin because i want to be,

I cant tell anyone that because i dont believe theyll take it the right way, i need to find a way to stop lying... ive started to rely on it to get my through everythink. i want it to end, i want to break the habit.....

Help or advice?

Many thanks x

Jake.

Answer 1

Well, you should ask yourself why you're lying to everyone.  Why don't you want to tell people who is the real you?  What reason do you have for hiding it??  Do you think people might think you're boring?  If it's about steroetypes, ignore them--society doesn't have to accept who you are.  What matters is that your comfortable with yourself (sorry if that sounded cheesy =) ).  But based on what you just described of yourself, you seem like a nice guy.  You're not a pervert, and keeping your virginity is a great thing!!  And being mature for your age is not a downfall at all, I'm pretty mature for my age too.

To stop lying, I guess you could just say what's on your mind all the time to start, just like you listed.  And try not to hesitate when you see and oppurtunity for a lie coming up--just say the truth automatically.  Try to say the truth about yourself maybe once a day, to feel the flow of things.  Maybe you could talk to the girl who knows you so well and ask for her ideas, and test telling the truth on her and friends.

Good luck!! =)

Answer 2

Hey Jake. You've been lying for such a long time that you are so used to it. It's a habit now, and that's why you can't stop.  What u need to do is accept who you are and be proud of yourself, once you do that you won't have to lie to anyone.  Don't worry about people accepting you, if they love you it doesn't matter who you are and if they don't accept you, well, then they weren't worth your time to begin with.  Hope this helped.