I don't have much experience...?

Question

Ok, I'll be honest, I'm only just decent. I'm not completly hideous, but I'm nto too great. And to top it off, I'm a complete and total nerd. yeah, brilliant combination, huh? =/ But I don't really want to change myself for anyone, because I like my individuality, you know? I don't want to sell it just to be friends with some shallow creeps. Now, I've heard plenty of girls (both here on Yahoo Answers and in real life) tell me that it's great that I am who I am. One even admitted that she needed me as a friend because I'm the only one who can relate to her. But that's the problem: every girl I know either wants to stay friends or already has a boyfriend. Now, even though I'm a nerd, I'm not a total loser. I go to the gym three or four times a week. I also like to write poems and songs. Point is, I'm my own person, and I don't really want to change for anyone. So, I guess my main question is, how do I go about approaching girls? Where are good places for me to find girls?

Answer 1

um, im confused. you just posted this same question,  but it had a different title. haha. oh well, i guess your just really searching for an answer. Just let the girls come to you! good luck

Answer 2

Learn to play the guitar and write love ballads and play them at a bar or something.  I have no idea.

Answer 3

you sound too good to be true.

I agree don't change, be yourself.  maybe hit up some coffee shops or find where you can read poetry those might be places where you would meet some girls you might like....

it is true we need guys like you because some guys treat girls like c**p and we need guys like you to remind us that their is hope.

Answer 4

in order to approach girls just be yourself. and if they don't like you for who you are then thats their loss. you don't need to change. eventually you'll find the right girl.

and as for good places to find girls.; look for them at the places you enjoy. for example if you are a book worm and love the library then maybe you can meet someone at the library. stuff like that.

hope i helped!

Answer 5

Im very sympathetic to your problems man.

I was always in the "friend zone" with girls. I even tried to start talking to this girl that I was crushing on but we ended up becoming best friends instead.

But anywho, I suggest that you attend after school functions or music gatherings or just anything outside of school basically. This will give you an oppourtunity to find someone who shares the same interest as you and can provide an easy way to start a conversation.

Answer 6

It's great that you want to stay true to yourself because in the end, being honest with yourself is much better then attempting to change who you are to please others. I would say, you just have to be patient. Sure, you may like a girl who only likes you as a friend- but if she only likes you as a friend then clearly it just wasn't meant to be. You'll eventually find that one girl who loves everything about you and who wants more then just a friendship. As for how you can meet girls, I would suggest for you to just go where you usually go out as that way you may find girls with the same interests as you. Don't go to a place you would rather not be just to meet girls because it would probably end up with you not having all that much in common with the individual you end up meeting. Basically, just chill and have fun... talk to girls... put yourself out there but be prepared for rejection because everyone gets rejected at least once or twice- it's a part of life. If you see a girl you are attracted to, introduce yourself and if she doesn't seem interested back... at least you know that you put yourself out there! That's all that is important really.

Answer 7

you seem lik a great person. you don't need to approach a girl. she'll approach you- seriously you don't know how many girls would kill to find such a nice guy. so what if your a nerd? thats good cause youll get a good paying job and then girls will see how greeat you are. GOOD LUCK! just be normal and act like yourself

Answer 8

i agree.. i think thats reallly great you dont want to change for anyone.. i wish more people could be like that..but anyways mabey your proublem is you arnt flirting enough with girls... telling them they look beautiful.. mabey seince your so smart u could offer to help a girl u like in school... just try to hang out with them more

good luckkkkk