I feel really bad... =(

Question

ok, my gf and I are 19, we both love each other and care about each other. she's beautiful, smart, and don't party (which I love about her). When we were first dating, she was the one that didn't like me for partying, drinking, and smoking cigarettes, so I didn't do any of those things because of her. Yes, I was a jerk from time to time, but she somehow changed me totally, which I love about...

Now my current problem, We have been going out for 2~3 months and we have done some 'adult' stuff (but not intercourse), but we only did that because 1) i've known her for 7 years and both of us had feelings for eachother since 6th grade, 2) we love each other. But she and I will be away (i'm in CO, she'll be in CA) from each other due to school and I have been in a long distance relationship for 7 months with my ex and I know we'll work on this (she'll travel at least a month to see me, and so will I...money's not problem for us) and lately, I started watching p**n...=(

I know I shouldn't do this, but I can't help it...

Any advice will be greatly appreciated...thank you.

Answer 1

dude its totally normal thats why they made it so when you are alone and have the urge pull it out and start to splurge but really your girlfriend may be doing the same thing i mean they do it too you know

Answer 2

Turn to Jesus Christ lol....

Answer 3

Well, When you watch p**n, You are just pleasuring a natural instinct, when you watch the p**n stars/models, you don't have any love feelings when you see them.

Even married guys do it, because her wives can't have s*x all the time with them, and sometimes they're tired.

SO, DON'T PANIC, it's just the oldest human's natural instinct, you watch p**n, you feel satisfied, but your feelings about her won't change.

There's a distance between you and p**n, you don't feel anything for the naked women...

Hope that helps :)

By the way, can you send me the p**n website ? LOL

Answer 4

You are using p**n as your outlet instead of looking at other women, so that is actually a good thing.  But you need to be sure you can differentiate yourself between the 2 things, p**n and the girl.  You are 19, in the prime of your sexual life, and you do not have the woman you love near you to accomdate that.  Don't get to down on yourself, you are a normal dude.  If you feel that you have to tell her, she will probably understand, but you really don't need to.  Good luck.

Answer 5

You're a 19 year old guy w/no outlet?  Watching p**n is pretty mild compared to other actions many in your position have taken.

If you feel that horribly, ration yourself - if you find you can't control yourself  - try  a psychologist - or maybe actually have the s*x you're watching on a weekend visit with the girlfriend.  

Who knows?  maybe she needs an outlet too?

Answer 6

You should not feel bad as it's natural.  The good thing is that you did not seek out another woman to fill the void that you're yearning for.  You may not be seeking intercourse specifically, but you are wanting to be intimate.  Women also do find outlets for their sexual frustrations, but most will deny that.  Perhaps talk with your girlfriend about your needs for intimacy and see if you can find some creative ways to be intimate without her being in the same state.  See what's she's open to and make sure she is comfortable, but always communicate with her about your feelings and needs.