I had an ...................?

Question

I'm 26 and my boyfriends is 27, I had an abortion, 3 weeks ago, but I think I did something bad, I didn't think that he was going to take care of me, and the relationship was new, and he change after we where pregnant. He doesn't know that I got it done, but he think I had a miscarriage, I don't know. I already have a child , and I was scaird that I was again and that he was going to leave...... Now I want to made everything better and give him what he wants but not sure?????????? I know that abortion is wrong but NO RUDE COMMENTS!!! I'm an abult!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I think you should tell him the truth.  You may have jumped the gun on this one, but telling him the truth may help you figure out where you guys should go.

Answer 2

You need to tell him the truth.  You murdered his child too and he has the right to know.  You don't want to look at him forever and know what you did.  The guilt is already eating at you.  It will be hard, but just explain to him the way you explained it to us.  Sometimes our past relationships (ok, most of the time), plays a part in at least how we think things will go in the next relationship.  I would wait a while before trying to have another baby though so that you know that he will be around and you know each other better.  Give it a couple of months to see how he really is.  And trust me when I tell you to move in with each other.  That's when you really find out how each other is and what bothers you about each other.  Honesty is the only way to have a relationship it is what a good relationship is based on.  Good luck.

Answer 3

you killed your baby ..real nice..now tell your other child what you did to her sibling

Answer 4

this really isnt a question it sounds like you are trying to justify what you did? am i correct? if you are asking if you should tell him then yes you should the longer you wait the worse off the situation will be when you do finally tell him. if he loves you and cares for you then he will understand. granted he probably will be pissed and upset and hurt that you didnt trust him because maybe he wanted the baby. you just need to tell him from your point of view. tell him where you stand and your fears. a decision like the one you made should be made between the two of you it was his baby to but you took matters into your own hands. i am against abortion and i believe that it is murder but it is your body and you say what you do with it so its your decision. you made a permanent solution to a temporary problem. and i'm not talking about the baby being temporary i'm talking about your fears over being afraid he would reject you. you really cant post a question like this without getting negative answers. i'm not judging or condemning you for what you did because whats done is done but you do really need to talk to him. i hope everything works out for you and if i came off rude i'm sorry i was not meaning to.

i just seen the rest of your question as for getting pregnant again you need to talk to him first thats a decision that you two need to make together. dont leave try to make it work you never know it could drive you apart but then again it could make you closer in the long run. good luck on your situation and i really hope you get the outcome you want

Answer 5

I'm not sure what your question is. Are you asking not to tell him the truth?