I need some advice on adoption...

Question

Can you put your baby up for adoption without the father's consent or does he have to sign papers as well? If so can he get the baby back and what are the details of an open adoption?

Answer 1

A father has to take legal steps to establish his paternity. If he doesn't do so, an adoption can take place without his consent, but laws vary from state to state.  Check with a lawyer or an agency to see what your rights are. It's the father's responsibility to establish and protect his rights, not yours.

Answer 2

I would like to adopt your baby but I wouldn't bother wasting my time because the father make come back and get involved. I've been there and done that and don't want to waste my time again.  If you have friends in dire straits that may be considering giving up there babies let me know. I think God has brought us together. I will only consider a child under 2.  

Answer 3

The father has rights too. You both have to sign your rights away. There are many fathers out there who are fighting for their right to raise their baby. If you don't want to raise the baby but the father does, you should let him.  

Answer 4

Depends on if he is involved.  If you put his name on the birth certificate, you should have is consent.  I would speak with someone at an adoption agency to discuss the best way to handle the situation.  Open adoptions vary,  most include some contact with the new parents.  It is up to both parties to come to an agreement as to how much contact is shared.

Answer 5

If your with the baby's father then you have to get permission,but if he doesn't want nothing to do with the baby then No.No u can't get the bay back after some family has adopted him.An open adoption is a type of adoption where the birth parent(s) stay in regular contact with their child and the adoptive family.

Answer 6

Yes, you can put your baby up for adoption without the birth fathers consent.  However, his rights will need to be terminated in court.  If the birth-father wants to raise the child himself, he will most likely be successful.

I have two boys through the miracle of adoption.  Both of the situations are open, however, only one of the birth-moms chose to keep in contact.  We are very open, we email about every two weeks, I send her pictures and she is planning to try and come visit in a month or so.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

When the father of my nephew couldn't be found, and in the end, they could only get him on the phone once.  He told them not to call.  The adoption went ahead without him.  Legally.  He regretted it afterwards, but that was his own fault.

Answer 8

If the father's name is not on the birth certificate and his paternity has not been established, then you do not need his permission. You should talk to him about it though and get his opinion. I know my birth father told my birth mother not to put his name on the birth certificate and just give me away. He was only 16, and obviously very immature! But your baby's father may feel differently.

To 'Adopt More Babies': As an adoptee, I would not have wanted to be adopted by a person like you! You will only consider babies under 2? That's so closed-minded!  

Answer 9

The father is a parent of that baby as well. If you do not want to raise your baby, then the father should have a chance to raise his child.  If neither of you do, then find out if your families do, as grandparents and aunts/uncles can also suffer intense grief and trauma (almost as much as do the natural parents) if they lose a beloved new family member to adoption.  So, if you truly do not want your baby, then see if a loving family member can adopt him/her rather than a stranger.  Otherwise you may be traumatizing far more loved ones than just yourself.

The details of open adoption is that it varies from just the exchange of names to occasional letters/emails to actual visits.  You are still no longer legally related to that child once the adoption happens, and you have NO legal rights to any contact.  Open adoptions can close at any time.   As well, it can be extremely painful to see your child being raised by someone else, and can be extremely painful for your child if you have more children and keep them.

"Open adoption" began being offered after the Baby Scoop Era ended because moms began keeping their babies and adoption agencies were going out of business.  They needed to entice more mothers to surrender. They did research and found that promises of open adoption would get more mothers to surrender.

I would suggest taking your baby home with you and getting to know what it is like to be a mom first before making the decision to give away your baby.  At least then you can make an informed choice.  An informed decision about adoption cannot be made pre-birth as pregnancy/birthing hormones affect judgment and lack of experience prevents informed consent.

Answer 10

It's worth adding that if you're in Oregon, the laws are significantly different--if you aren't in a committed relationship with the birth father, you won't need his consent. As Dan Savage put it, the law in Oregon recognizes that men have orgasms and women have babies.