I want to be angry...?

Question

I found out she was sleeping with someone, while she was "allowing" me to do the little things in her life. Fixing things, spending time with her kids, doing things for them, etc., etc.

I realize now that I was someone she turned to because she could count on me. I know I allowed myself to be used.

But...

I feel foolish for being angry, but I feel so much fury. What can I do?

Answer 1

There is NOTHING wrong with being angry at someone who used you, even if you somehow allowed it.  Be angry at her and be angry at yourself.  I find the best way to dissipate anger is to vent it, whether that be talking it to death with a friend, or exercising strenuously, or beating the heck out of an object of your choosing.  Personally, I like breaking plates.  You could take a bat to ball repeatedly.  It might take some time, but let it out.  In the future be more picky about your significant others.

Answer 2

what are you talking about I'm lost