I want to but he doesnt???

Question

ok me and my boyfriend have been together for like 3 years we have lived together for 2 and we also have an eight month old daughter....we are still young to. Well my bf has asked me to marry him 3 times and all 3 times i thought he was just kidding to i said no but now that im talking about getting married he acts like he doesnt want to. he wants to wait a couple more years but i want to get married next year and sometimes he agrees to it and sometimes he doesnt......so i just dont know what to do

Answer 1

This is pretty common - with you two shacking up he doesn't want to or need to get married.

And since he didn't ask you two seconds after he found out you were pregnant, just shows the lack of character he has.

Answer 2

You already treated him like c**p when he did propose.  What do you expect?  He's already been slapped down 3 times like you think he's a joke.  Live with it. When and if he decides that maybe a marriage will work, he will likely ask again.  

Answer 3

Why would you have a kid together before you got married? Shoulda waited he probably won't ever marry you now...

Answer 4

he asked you because he knew you did not want to .,.that you were not ready. and now that you are.. he is having second thoughts..he was saving face..so to speak.. trying to make the family.. yours mainly think he was wanting to make a honest woman out of you...when in fact he was wanting to look good for them..go back to your original way of thinking and next time he ask..say yes..you will see i am right ..he does not mean what he is saying..

Answer 5

Why did you say no before? He would be crushed, it takes a lot of courage to ask someone to marry them. How come you never talked more about it after he asked you?

I think you have made a bad mistake but also i think you should be patient & let him ask you. Or you could try to set up a romantic night & get him a ring & all & ask him. He may like that???

Answer 6

what do you mean HE made the mistake of not using protection????  YOU need to be responsible too!! you could have been on the pill, or used a female condom, or any other form of contraceptive!

anyway.. he probably doesn't want to get married because he asked you 3 times and you said no. i don't blame him.

Answer 7

Just ask him why before and not now. Is there some reason he’s holding back and wanting to wait? You both need to want the same thing, or there will be trouble later. You shouldn’t make someone feel forced to get married. I would certainly ask why he wants to wait. I also agree you should have waited to have children, but sometimes things happen. I would defiantly make sure you don’t have another child until he’s ready to commit to you and you’re first born.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

i WOULD start going to marriage canceling and weighing out your options. I think that you need to show your daughter what it is like to grow up in a married house

Answer 9

It could be he doesn't want to talk about marriage because the three times he has asked you have told him no. That would sure as h**l discourage me if I were him.  

Answer 10

Sounds like you need a serious talk about MARRIAGE.  or What is the PLAN for the rest of your lives together?

He sounds like he's just playing you.  He knows you think he's kidding so he keeps asking you to marry him knowing you'll think he's kidding.  Then when you really want to marry him ~ he's like avoiding or making excuses to NOT.  

With a child, I'd think you would be thinking about a LIFE TOGETHER with her.  You'd best both GROW UP and start PLANNING YOUR LIVES ~ no matter how young you still are.  

You don't get today back once it's over.  Plan your life, live your plan.  THere are plenty of bumps along the way.  Having a committed partner makes everything better !!!

Answer 11

He probably fells like you think his opinion doesn't matter. To a guy asking a girl to marry him isa very important think and you took that away from him, When he wanted to you acted like it was a joke and now because you decide it's a good idea it's real. Give him some time he needs to make the decision, you never know he might be planing to ask you right now.

Answer 12

Wait till you are both ready or there will be problems down the road and you dont want problems at the start of a amarriage.