IS HE CHEATING OR NOT?

Question

OK MY SITUATION GOES LIKE THIS JUST ABOUT TWO WEEKS AGO I LOGGED INTO MY HUSBANDS MYSPACE ACCOUNT AND READ AN INCOMING EMAIL FROM A GIRL HE WROTE TO EXCHANGING EACH OTHERS PHONE NUMBERS SO OBVIOUSLY I GET MAD AND DECIDE TO ASK HIM ABOUT IT AND HE TELLS ME THAT IT WAS A GIRL HE MET IN VIRGINIA AT A TRUCK STOP AND THAT HE SET UP EVERYTHING TO SEE IF I CHECK UP ON HIM BUT THERE ARE MANY QUESTIONS STILL LEFT UNANSWERED SO WHEN I ASK HIM HE GETS MAD ABOUT THE SUBJECT I MEAN HES A TRUCK DRIVER AND I DEF. DON'T TRUST HIM WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Answer 1

sorry, but it sounds pretty fishy to me

i would have to say that i do think he is either cheating or trying to make you think that, because he wants out of the relationship

( and just so you know, when you type in all capital letters like that on the internet it means you are shouting and lots of people think it is pretty rude, i ususlly assume it is someone that just doesn't know )

Answer 2

I think that if you have to ask the question, unfortunately you already know the answer. I think the best thing for you to do is assume the worst case scenario. He is cheating. He's gone all the way. It's been going on for a long time. He's developed feelings for this person. It's not his first time. She is pregnant. She's given him a disease. And he's online right now looking for more women. Think of the worse thing he could be doing and ask yourself, if this is true, what are you going to do? Will you call it quits? If so, call it quits now. If you think you can live with the "worse case scenario" then don't sweat any of it and get on with your life. Basically, you  have two choices. Stay or go. Whatever your decision, just be prepared to live with it. I wish you luck and very minimal pain!

Answer 3

If he isn't cheating, he is definitely flirting with disaster or heading down that road.. no pun intented.

Answer 4

He is lying and cheating.  

Think about it, would you go through all that trouble just to see if someone checks up on you?  sounds like a great excuse to use when you been caught.  Don't be foolish.

Answer 5

You mean some random chick at a truck stop agreed to help him "check on his wife"? Yeah. Right. You're not stupid, you know what's happening here.

More than likely this girl is a lot lizard (there are tons of them out there) and your man is not being straight with you. He's avoiding the subject by getting angry with you because he's buying time to think of logical-sounding defenses.  

Answer 6

Well he probably knew that you were logging into his accounts, and that you were checking up on him.  And he probably did set you up.  I did the same thing to one of my ex's playing an online game, she had a habit of coming in every time a commercial came on the t.v. and reading my screen to see if i was cybering with women in the game.  I waited till a commercial was about to start on the t.v. and i asked this friend to do a in game kiss, which she did and i scrolled my chat screen so that was all that was showing.  So just as my ex came in after the commercial started i logged out timing it just right so she could see the kiss but not be able to back up and see what was typed before hand.. She was furious wanting me to log in so she could tell this girl off.  I laughed, she yelled, i laughed more and then finally told her what transpired and told her she got what she deserved.

Now I will tell you contrary to what one woman said, not all truck drivers cheat that means nothing.  I myself am a truck driver and in fact own a small fleet of trucks that make me some pretty good money, and i can tell you trucks don't make money sitting still and you can't cheat when your truck is rolling down the road.  Most companies and truck drivers work well over 80 hrs a week, and really don't have much time out on the road to do anything but work and sleep, often at the end of the day they have to make a choice of wether to eat or shower before going to sleep because they don't have the energy to do much else.

Answer 7

Hi, So your husband exchanged phone numbers with some gal he met on the road, and his explanation is, he did this just to see if you were checking up on him?

Wow he came up with a good one there! That was some fast thinking on his part.

If I was married to an over the road truck driver and he told me that one, I think I would laugh out loud, after that I would cry, or maybe throw a hard object at his head, you pick which one!

Let's just say for a moment that is the truth. He made some girl think he is interested in her. He gives out his my-space info, to get her to message him, just to test you. That is not a kind hearted person at all.

How unfair to this other person. IF this is true.

A better version goes like this. You caught him. He makes up a wild *** story that puts the blame back on you. After all this is your fault because you were checking up on him. Or so he is trying to make you feel. This is a common defense mechanism on the part of guilty people when busted.

I guess that means it is ok for you to get phone numbers from the local guys when your hubby is on the road. After all you are only doing that to see if he is checking up on you, right?

Hon, I am so sorry but I wouldn't trust him at all.

I wish you the Very Best of Luck!

Answer 8

Let him know it hurt you, but that you are concerned.  Trust is an issue and a boundary was broken by both of you.  Set soome boundaries that are hard lined and stick to them.

Answer 9

i think he is a truck driver.  

i also think that is all you need to know to know that of course he is seeing other women when he is away.  sorry if i am stereotyping, but the "gettting  mad" is the dead giveaway.  

Answer 10

First thing, turn off your caps lock.  I  know you're pissed, but you don't have to shout.

Second, time for you to start riding shotgun.

Answer 11

Its hard to say. You have little evidence but its not enough. And heck no u shouldn trust that lie he told you. You shoulda called her asked her what was goin on in a nice woman-to-woman fashion and go from there. Its worked 4 me a few times and the other girl is very cooperative.  

Answer 12

omg get over it. you act like he can't have any friends that just so happen to be fe-male is there anything wrong with that.your acting like you own him and he cant see anyone else

Chrystal: ARE YOU F****** kidding yes they are women think they are so f****** smart and they think that men aren't smart. And yes we are smart enough to pull that off. And any way more women cheat on their husbands than vis -versa. AND HOW DO WE KNOW THAT WHEN HER HUSBAND IS ON HIS ROUTES SHE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH SOMEONE ELSE

Answer 13

Of course he's going to get mad, because he's been caught. I've already been there done that. Don try to investigate because you will set yourself up for dissapointment. I used to check the text messages and all of that and most of the time they lie, but please believe, whatever is done in the dark will come to light. I finally stopped looking and it eventually just fell in my lap. If you haven't been with him long tell him to kick rocks, but if you have, just wait and see what happens. It may be nothing. Just because he met someone on myspace that doesn't mean anything. Don't worry about it.

Answer 14

yes he is cheating.

why in gods name does he have a "myspace" account??? geesus, its for teenagers!! NOT married couples. The whole social network is b.s....The internet is a dangerous place for married couples, with bs like myspace and facebook, and that stuff. I dont know how old you are, but must be fairly young? He is lying, i'm sorry.

The fact he exchanged numbers??? sorry, but my guess is he has already been with this s***k...already cheated.

Add detail, like your age and how long you've been married please.

Do you have a myspace? if not, tell him to lose it or lose you, though honestly, its not gonna stop him from cheating. myspace is similar to a dating site, as you already prob know. Married couples or others ,dont need online social networks, its asking for trouble, as you also know.

good luck to you

Answer 15

Some people get defensive when they have done something wrong and are confronted with it. It sounds to me that he is up to something and I would not trust him either. The setting you up is the lamest excuse I have heard yet! I mean why would someone do that in the first place? Makes no sense at all. He may have or have not cheated, but it sure sounds like hes thinking about it, if he hasn't done it already.

Answer 16

hire a p.i.

Answer 17

My husband is a truck driver and he sure does not get numbers from other woman.  That is c**p, sounds like he has something to hide to me.

Linda

Answer 18

Ok, ok,

I know everyone is jumping on the "he is cheating" bandwagon, and I do admit he is up to something.

Just because he exchanged phone numbers with a girl he met, doesn't mean he slept with her.

NO, a married man should not be exchanging phone numbers with women, I understand that.

But it doesn't necessarily mean he has done anything physically.

Now, with that said, you state that you "definately don't trust him".

Then what is the point of the marriage?

Does he go through your stuff? email? purse?

There is obviously a reason you decided to check out his Myspace.

I guess I don't understand why you want to live like that? In a marriage of constant suspicion and distrust.

If there isn't any trust, why continue all these junior high games?

Move on and be happy.

Life is too short.

Answer 19

hun listen to yourself.......with everything you just said...he got mad... he set it up...you don't trust him...

The guy is cheating and you want someone to tell you that he's not

Answer 20

ASK HIM OVER 100 QUESTIONS THEN COME BACK TO QUESTION NUMBER 3 AND SEE IF YOU GET THE SAME ANSWER

OR ASK HIM SOMETHING ABOUT IT THEN WAIT A WEEK OR A COUPLE OF DAYS OR SO AND SEE IF YOU GET THE SAME ANSWER

IF YOU DONT GET THE SAME ANSWER HES LYING!!!

AND.. HE MAY NOT BE CHEATING BUT HE SHOULDNT BE TALKING TO NO LADYS ON MYSPACE WHO HE DONT KNOW..

MAKE HIM DELETE HIS MYSPACE AND IF HE STARTS TRIPPIN HES LYIN! AND IT MEANS HE DOESNT WANNA CUT OF CONTACT WITH HER

SO THERE FOR HE MIGHT JUST BE CHEATIN

Answer 21

i think he is cheating on u,why would anyone set up their marriage for doom?when a man is doing something he shouldn't be doing he will always become defensive and secretive.when your married u shouldn't be exchanging phone numbers or even meeting others, because u belong to the one u married, and it seems as if u can't trust him u already know that theres something strange going on.

Answer 22

Keep your caps on if you want it doesn't bug me.

He is definitely lieing about something.

I dont believe the whole set you up thing at all.

Answer 23

it doesn't smell good!

Answer 24

If he's your husband, you should trust him.

Answer 25

Great excuse he gave! Why is he checking to see if you are watching him? He sounds guilty right off the bat. If you are not checking up on him and he has no evidence that you are, what is he going to do? What does it prove to him that you saw incoming mail? Why does he have to exchange numbers in order for him to know if you are watching out for what he is up to? If he lives his life honestly it shouldn't matter if you have a video camera strapped to his seat 24 hours a day - he should have nothing to hide from his wife whether she is watching him or not. Truck drivers, no offense, have a bad rep for cheating. Lot lizards are all over. He was thinking on his feet with that excuse, but the man most likely has women at every stop. You two have some discussing to do about how to treat each other. MySpace is not a great gift to mankind. Much cheating and nonsense goes on with that forum. I am sorry - you have much to deal with. Good luck! Trust is a must.  

Answer 26

Could be hard to know, I am insecure about my husband too and he knows it and he knows when I ask him about something he did but try to make it sound not like I'm asking because I think he is cheating but he knows what I really thinking for example, yesterday i went out and came back and asked him what he did all day, he said cleaned, I asked what more and he responded saying he was with other girls not that he meant it but he knows im worried and knows when im asking a question becuas im a little worried, but him saying he set up to see if you checked sounds a little out there.

Try waiting a little while dont mention anything, then go back on his account and see if there are any new messages from this girl, if you know his password and he changes it now that you got on and found something sounds suspiscious

Answer 27

you checked up on him. found out that he doesn't trust you. do you think that he is NOT cheating? if so i'm sorry for you.

Answer 28

All truck drivers are h*es, especially the married ones. You will not be able to control him when he is gone or keep tabs on him. You need to make time to ride with him sometimes or something. And he claims he made that up so you could see it. This is how you can get his lying a**. Set up a fake account under a s**y name. Find you a pic of a woman, send him messages and see what he says back to you. Then you will see what kind of man your husband really is. I think you need to leave him. I just hope he doesn't go off on the road, meet the wrong woman, sleep with her and bring something back home to you. Be very careful.  

Answer 29

Yes , so call a good lawyer and divorce him.   Or stay with him and put up with it.  

Answer 30

Just because hes your huband you shouldn't trust him because hes a man! Men lie so do women but we are talking about a man right now! Check his phone records. :) See if he has called her. What ever phone company you have you can check incoming and out going calls. All you do is go down there or sign up online and you can check it. Hope that helps. Don't make a big fuss in tell you know and did you check his sent messages? To see if the story added up, or his email address. They usually for get to erase those. :D Don't for get the deleted messages either, but check your resources before jumping the gun. You never want to lead on like you don't trust him in tell you have proof, because they will start to think what kind of relationship am I in, and just think negative thoughts about everything. So be careful, and choose your battles wisely.

Answer 31

I think that if you don't trust him, then you already know in your heart what the deal is. He's probably lying to you, guys just don't set up things so their wives can find it  and get caught sneaking.. Most guys just aren't smart enough to pull that off. He's doing something wrong and is becoming defensive because he doesn't' want to get caught. You need to call that women's phone number and ask her what's going on, hopefully the truth will come out.