Im so annoyed with a friend ?

Question

my friend decided to have a baby with this guy she knew 3 months. when she got pregnant (on purpose), they got married and are now still married but dont speak because he moved away and is over the relationship. he is in the marines and pays her $700 a month from that. her grandparents have decided to buy her a house (paying cash) so she can just save her rent in a bank account for her daughter. anyways, she has been on WIC and low income housing and milking the system. and now she is getting a house paid for her (along with everything else). she keeps sending me links to the houses she wants, and i am having a hard time being truely happy for her. i mean, she is so stingy and spoiled and finds a way to avoid paying for everything, yet i am pregnant now and she never asks me about it yet wants to talk to me about getting a house all the time. maybe im just jealous because my hubby and i pay for everything on our own. what can i do..??

Answer 1

No one can take care of her forever.  She will definitely feel the blow sooner or later.  I completely understand how you feel... even more so with all the hormones you have right now.  It's not fair, and almost sickening, but at least you are living your life honestly.  Good luck!

Answer 2

talk to her its the best way to relieve all the tension youre feeling

Answer 3

its crazy.. i feel you though about friends.. my friend was pregnant last year and had her sister throughout her whole pregnancy.. she supposedly my best friend but now i " " her has my best friend cuz doesnt seem like she is much of a friend. anways anything she wanted or need she had the help.. now that im pregnant (since the beginning) i've felt alone. any cravings i had never got.. wish that whole sty in the eye thing was true.. so many would have them lol.. she hasnt once asked me how i been.. whats been going on.. i texted her few days ago about symptoms what she thought n just wrote could be.. like uhmm okkkk thanks for checkin up.. not anything like what you went through but the whole friendship thing.. ugh im annoyed with mine just like you are yours.. so i understand

Answer 4

tell her how u feel

Answer 5

I'm thinking we have the same friend.  The only difference is my friend has 3 babies by 3 different guys. I ignore her, I try to avoid her calls, and if for some reason I answer when she calls, I tell her I'm heading out.  The thing I don't get is why, when we work so hard for everything we have and to stay off of government assistance (not that there is anything wrong with it), some people get everything handed to them.  It makes me sick, cause while they are abusing the government assistance, the people that really need are unable to get it because of them.  

Answer 6

U may be annoyed but I wouldn't worry about her life..it'll catch up, whether she knows it or not...

Answer 7

I do not think you are jealous.  I have a friend who only calls me when she wants to sell something.  Not to be rude, but if I wanted her used furniture I would go to a garage sale and get it myself.  When I told her I was pregnant and found out I was having a miscarriage, she told me she had to go and would call me right back.  2 weeks later she texted me to see if I was still pregnant.  

Some people are just S**ty friends!  No offense but your friend sounds like she is not a good person in general.  I have no respect for people who cheat the system and waste our hard earned tax money because they want a free ride.  It sounds like the only thing she cares about is herself.  You have every right to be upset that she takes no interest in you and your pregnancy.

If I were you I would just let her be.  I dont try to contact my friend anymore, not like it mattered she NEVER would pick up the phone.  I would just be civil to her when she calls, and if you really dont feel like doing that, I would stop picking up her calls.  It is not like you would be losing a good friend, because she definitely is not a good friend.

Answer 8

I'd be annoyed too!  I'd tell her just how you feel.  She's about to be a mother, it's high time for her to grow up!

Answer 9

don't worry about b/c soon she will have her problems.

omg, i sound so mean.

but there is a such a thing as karma.

you and your husband will be very proud when you look back and say we made it. where as she didnt, im sure your later life will be much more ffulfilledthan hers.

Answer 10

Your feelings are understandable but unless you stop being her friend, then you will have to deal with it. If you are good friends, try telling her how you feel.