Im stressed but i'm stuck..?

Question

ok so i work in sales and have to make calls but normally there's me and another girl but she's on holiday so all the pressure is on me, we're having building work at the office and i can't hear anything so i cant make my calls, my boss doesnt understand i cant just ask the builder to stop, so i'll get in trouble! I'm also so so tired because my long term boyfriend is working weird hours and the only way i can see him is by staying up late so he's not around to support me as when i do see him he's falling asleep (i know its not his fault). I can't sleep properly i seem to wake up all the time and dont know why.

I feel like i just want to cry and sleep. what can i do?

Answer 1

I would call your boss on holiday, while all the noise is in the background and let him/her hear for themselves what's going on. Hopefully you'll get his voice mail and can record the attempted call with all the construction noise in the background.  When he complains that he can't hear you, simply say "this is why I'm calling you", the noise is too loud for telephone communications. When you can talk to your boss, ask if it's possible to take your call list and work from home, if he'll compensate you for the telephone bill. If that won't work, ask if you can work a different shift when the construction workers are gone. Possibly working the same schedule as your boyfriend at least temporairly.

If none of these attempts are successful, you'll have to accept that you've done the best you can, "that's all anyone can do".  Realize that if I were the customer you were calling I'd be annoyed with all the background noise and I'd hang-up on you.  Your complaint of the noise is vaild, your boss should have scheduled construction after hours if he wanted his sales team to work effectively.  

Try to be kind to yourself, the things going on at work and your boyfriends odd schedule are challenges but these conditions are out of your control.  Your boss and your boyfriend need to make an effort also to help you help them.  Leave your boyfriend some intimate notes to read so you don't have to stay up late. Take a nice bubbly bath with some candles, relax and get the sleep you need.

Good Luck To You

Answer 2

nothing, its chaos to subordinate..

Answer 3

Hey hun you sound completely stressed out... a little like me at the moment also.

With regards to making your calls at work, is there not another room that you can go into to make the calls?

Alternatively, tell your boss that you would like to use his mobile.  I used to work in sales and our computers used to always crash but yet they still expect you to hit target.  Maybe you should go and speak to your bosses boss to see what they say about the situation.  Sales jobs are always stressful anyway.

I used to do shift work and sometimes didnt used to finish my shift until 12am so I had the same problem with seeing my partner but you not getting any sleep is not helping.  I know it is difficult but why dont you just sleep in the same bed with him every night but just get some rest and then at least you can feel like you have been with him a while.

Not too sure if you do already but you may want to consider joining a gym or doing some exercises of your own... yoga is a great way to relieve stress both mentally and psysically.  Its a vicious cirle that is you dont get sleep you are stressed, then work makes you stressed etc...

Maybe speak to your pharmacist, they should be able to recommend some tablets to help you chill out a bit..

Fingers crossed  

Answer 4

Well have a cry and then go to sleep.

Answer 5

OK - first of all, you need to speak to your boss.  There's no point whinging about it to us, you need to meet with your boss and say that you are struggling with the workload while your colleague is away and what can he suggest?  

Also mention that the building noise is making it hard to do your job (but is it really?)

The other thing you need to do is stop staying up late.  Right now, you need your sleep.  If your boyfriend is working weird hours, then plan not to see each other on worknights until your colleague is back. Plan a date (either day or night depending on your shifts!) on the weekend, and that will give you something to look forward to.  Don't use your boyfriend as a whinging-board, either, as he is tired and you are stressed and you don't need it.  Meet up with a friend after work one night if you can, have some wine, say "I need to whinge about my job!" get it off your chest, and then relax.  Then when you see your boyfriend you won't need to load it all onto him.

The insomnia is completely normal when you are stressed.  So, now that you have a night to yourself, with your boyfriend, set a bed time and stick to it, even if you're not tired.  Make sure you don't watch TV or use the internet within two hours of this time, as it will overstimulate you.  Don't drink tea or coffee.  Have a hot bath or shower, get into bed at the decided time, read a book or magazine, or just lie in bed and listen to chilled out music.  Try deep breathing, and also, remember.... you might be stressed, but what is the worst that can happen?  

Relax, and be prepared to take action for your own sake.