In response to my last question?

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I meant to reply in that question but I waited too long. I guess for anyone who doubtsd my reasons for wanting to adopt instead of having my "own" kids (ughh), I'll explain.

It's not that I have anything AT ALL againsgt having biological kids. I've just never felt that I had to have bio kids to be happy in life. I LOVE childern and am very good with kids. I know that I have to have kids sometime in my life to be happy. So as I am financially and emotionally able to adopt I don't see why anyone would have a porblem with me not doing it as "God intended". The God I worship intended for us to be compassionate and unselfish beings but you know, everyone is different. I know that adoption is not an entirely positive experience but I have accepted that. I just can't stand that there are millions of kids to adopt and yet a successful woman with no real desire to have my "own" kids wou

Answer 1

You have the freedom to do whatever you want. Just b/c you are able to have biological children does't mean that you can't adopt a child. Good luck!

Answer 2

You sound very compassionate.  I'm sure there are children waiting in foster care who would love to come home with you

Answer 3

You look like you have thought this through very carefully - I commend you on your obvious compassion.

You said -

"The God I worship intended for us to be compassionate and unselfish beings but you know, everyone is different."

In this case - then I would suggest that if and when you do adopt - read LOTS about what actions (of an adoptive parent) really mess with the heads of the adoptee.

I won't make a list - but do make sure you honour your child - by honouring the child's heritage and the child's own history.

Children do not come as a blank slate.

They have come from somewhere - from someone else.

They will always feel the loss of losing that past. No matter how bad. It's just hardwired into the brain.

Do not force your adoptee to love you - or - expect your child to forever be grateful to you for 'saving' them - if you love them and allow them to grieve what they have lost - they will come to love you.

Listen, be open, be honest, empathise, read, read,read.

Some adoptee blogs -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index...

Recommended books -

http://originsusa.memberlodge.org/Defaul...

I wish you all the very best.

Answer 4

You're right!! Just PREY!! you'll know when it's the right time. Don't ket anyone get you down. I have a bio and adopted child and I love them both the same. I did want to experience pregnancy, but when I was presented with the oppotunity to adopt I was all for it. It's AMAZING. Moses and Jesus were both adopted how can it be so wrong?

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with adopting kids. I think it is Nobel of you. Nobel, it just jumped in my mind.If you adopt, you are taking kids off of the street. That is why i called you nobel. More power to you, you are a good woman. Good luck.

Answer 6

You really shouldn’t need to feel the need to have to explain to some people why you’d rather adopt over having natural kids. Frankly its something no matter how you spell it some people will never understand. You seem like you will be a great mother wether your children are born to you or you adopt them.

Words of Wisdom Florida gal Moses  was adopted. Christ was basically  adopted too.