Is anyone an army wife?

Question

My husband mentioned that he would like to go into the military. I told him absolutely not, at least until our baby is born. Anyway, I think he might actually do it. I'm thrilled that he wants to serve his country, but at the same time I'm scared out of my mind. I have so many thoughts running through my mind, and I seriously don't think I could live without him if something happened. What were your reactions when your husband told you he was joining the military? Were you scared, happy, sad? What's it like, being home without your husband?

Answer 1

it is hard at first. you feel alone, scared, depressed. like you dont fit in and you are the only one in your situation. but your not.

i felt scared, happy and sad. i was happy to have the feeling of being taken care of. no worried about housing, insurance and income. sad because i knew we would have to move and leave our family and friends and scared of the unknown.

i think that is what you are, scared of the unknown. it is hard putting a smile on your face and acting excited for him because you dont know where all this can lead. but if your marriage is strong, you will find a way to be too.

being home alone is difficult, but you get used to it. i still check the locks every night, leave the light on in the kitchen, and still i get sad when i feel that cold spot in bed. i try to find things to keep my mind busy. i started back at school to get my masters, keep myself busy with our 8 month old son. I joined an online army wives support group as well.

but it is a way of life. you might never get used to him being gone. but i always think he will be back. luckily right now he is home with us.

you may think now you cant go on living without him. but you will find strength in yourself for you and your children. never think about what could happen. dont worry about the shoulda, coulda, woulda's in life. you cant control that.

good luck

Answer 2

tell him to join the MARINES! it really is a great oppurtunity for the both of u!  

Answer 3

tell him to be in the navy or airforce... army and marines suck

Answer 4

Being home without the husband is scared but all army men were not unmarried.you suppose to support your husband achivement.

Answer 5

the life itself is ok but he will be surrounded by cheating men, and s***s, yes he will.