Is compromise the key to marriage?

Question

I probably wont married. I dont like most girls I meet, the ones I do dont like me, and I cant compromise on what I am looking for. I have really high standards apparently but it's all personality. No race, color, height, etc. bias. I have against my better judgment, relaxed them a bit before, but I've been taken for a ride by those relationships.

Answer 1

Compromise is a major part of being married... But compromise should not play a part in WHO you marry!  Keep your standards high... eventually the right person will come along.  Compromise your standards before marriage and you're laying a foundation for trouble.

Answer 2

Then don't marry.  You know yourself well.

Answer 3

Compromise helps.. but the key is actually patience.

Ask yourself.. who can I be patient with the rest of my life?

And thats the person you should be with.

Everything else fades, looks, youth, h**l even the personality that you thought was so great at one time fades out.  Love even fades.

Patience, my friend.. Patience.

Answer 4

Yes compromise is key, but if youre not going to get married why do you ask?

Answer 5

Don't ever settle, you will not be happy.  Just wai for the right one, even then, you won't sure.  

Answer 6

Yes, there is some compromise necessary before settling down with someone.  Because it's personality you're looking for more than looks, it's going to be difficult to find someone who has all the qualities you're looking for.  Most parts of our personality are well hidden until we've known each other for very long periods of time.  So you might think you have the right person, but after your first fight you'll realize that's not her.

Also you have to realize that people have different ideas.  So if you want a considerate woman, you have to first define what you mean by considerate.  She might think she's being considerate to you but you don't see what she does as considerate.  But that doesn't mean she doesn't care--it's just that you have different ideas about what considerate looks like.

And of course, there is no one perfect out there in life.  Sometimes you're very lucky if you can find someone very close to what you're looking for.  If you're not willing to compromise, it looks like you've just accepted the fact that you might be alone for the rest of your life.  And if you're okay with that, then all is well in life! :-)

Answer 7

It sure is & the things we should compromise the most on are usually are unrealistically high expectations we have of our spouse.  Someone who was happily married for over 25 years gave me these words of wisdom on the "key to marriage:"  it takes both of you putting the interests of the other before yourself.  

Answer 8

yea but not always...

Answer 9

It is not the entire key, but it moves one of the tumblers.  All aspects require effort from both involved.

Answer 10

Sounds like you've bee hurt bad and that you need to let your guard down. Try it and see how it feels. You'll be surprised how wonderful life is without all these high expectations getting you down.  

Answer 11

You wouldn't happen to be a landscaper, would you?  Just wondering.

"Juan R"....is that anything like "Elizabeth R"?!

Sounds so royal, Juan!

Answer 12

compromise and unselfishness