Is he worth staying with?

Question

My boyfriend went to his ex gf's house on tuesday messed around they almost had s*x but he couldnt do it because he was thinking about me. So then Saturday she went to his garage touched him down there and he touched her back and they made out. I found it all out and he denyed it at first then told me the truth swore it would never happen again and that im all he wants and he loves me. What do i do? Im so afraid of it happening again but i CANT let him go he means to much to me.

Answer 1

It sounds like you don't mean that much to him, if A) He lied to you. B) he spent time with his EX, not once, but twice C) It's never happening again?? It happened twice, yo!

The intent was there, clearly. If you stay with that guy you will eventually feel all insecure, be paranoid, have low self esteem, and he will cheat again. I'm not sure what it is he is doing so great that makes him mean soooooooooo much to you, but don't you mean even more to you then some guy that makes out with his ex in a garage (which is so classy of the two of them, by the way) take care of you, there are tons of guys that will treat you good.  

Answer 2

You've already answered your own question (i CANT let him go he means to much to me).  I don't understand why you're asking anyone here what to do.  It's only a matter of time before they s***w.  I hope, for your sake, that she's not s******g anyone else with STDs or he'll bring them home to you.  It's your choice, but I believe it would be pretty stupid to keep this loser in your life.  If he has no more respect for you than this then he isn't worth your time.

Answer 3

If he is doing this now to you , what do you think if you stay with him ,will he go all the way next time , or maybe drop you for her, or even get her pregnet, its hard to let go my ex cheated on me and I was 7 months pregnet with his kid and since he did that to me i had to go, don't let the same happen to you , i know how hard it is to let go but its not worth the pain.

Answer 4

dam* if HE is stupid enough to cheat on u then he must not like u you prob need to move on  

Answer 5

Please leave him. If you two were married I would say different but since your not please leave before it gets more serious and then he cheats again. He's not worth it!

Answer 6

you can let go trust me its totally empowering to be on your two feet. he may love you but actions speak louder than words. i dont think you should stay if you dont have kids with him...be strong girl...your a woman trust me you could make it...look at how you will act if you stay with him its not worth it..you will be worried and all that no need to stress it, just let him go and get find your inner Independence and do your thing.

Answer 7

If twice in one week he was in situations where he could be with her in an inappropriate manner, he is not to be trusted.  He does mean a lot to you and you are devastated right now, but the BEST BEST thing you can do for yourself is take some time away from him.  You both need to step back and see where your hearts are.  Down the road, you will be thankful if you choose to do this.  If you love him and he loves you, there could be a way to work through this, but right now your heart is aching and desperate too bring him back to your arms.  you need some time and space to see and think clearly.  Trust me, and do this for your self.  It hurts and feels wrong, but it is the best way to find out what your head will tell your heart to do...

good luck.  be strong.  

Answer 8

You answered your own question 'I can't let him go", so you need to accept that it happened and he may very well allow it to happen again and you will just turn the other cheek and not let him go again when it does happen...

Answer 9

Once a cheat, always a cheat. Unless, possibly if they confess their sins, repent, and follow Jesus' word, less than that, I wouldn't believe a word. Forgive him for having not self control, but let him go. You will find someone better. You will fine some who you truly love, and they truly love you.

Answer 10

OMG this guy is a freak I hope you haven't had s*x with him and if you did you used protection. I would definitely leave him . He is just nasty ,nasty,nasty. He shouldn't mean nothing to you . You should always love yourself first as well as respect yourself . If you stay with him and allow this to continue the only thing you will do is let him and others know you have no self worth and that they  can run all over you because you let them. Value yourself a little more please

Answer 11

you should talk to him first...and besides, he's just a man. every man was easy to poison by the touch of lust and somehow, its her ex's fault. talk to him and make all things fixed and clear. if you love him you'll open what's on your mind. and if he loves you, he would listen and he will learn from the mistake he did. is that his first offense? well, just talk to him politely (Don't raise your voice, don't holler, no acusations and arguments) REMEMBER that you must talk to him to fix things and to open what's hidden inside you. just give him another chance (It will also help you to see if he's worth believing for or not). a chance for him to prove to you that he learned from his mistake and he's willing to get your trust once again. and ask him if he have problems or ask him what he wants so that you could give it to him and he will not look it for another. understand and talk to him girl, and he must learn how to control himself next time his ex do that. he denied it at first maybe becasue he's afraid of how would you react or what will you do after the confession. but as a girlfriend, you should be open to him...understand him. tell him that he must find his limits to his ex because its not fair if he will do "something" bad. just make all the mess cleaned up and start something new. but if he do that again, its your choice now honey...let go or wait for more pain in your heart. hope this helped you dear.