Is it wrong to leave?

Question

My partner has never pulled his weight since our son was born, he hasn't helped around the house or with the baby or nothing. I am getting really angry and whenever i try to talk to him, he listens, says he will help more and doesn't act on it. Is it wrong to want to leave (our son is one yr old now)

Answer 1

No, who would want to be in the situation? If he isn't changing anything, he might need for you to leave to know you are serious, but chances are it will be to late when you go... my best friend is going through a similar situation, but she is moving out now, and not looking back... he blew waayyyy too many chances she gave him to try to work on things, I don't know if he didnt take her serious, or what, but its too late now... try leaving for a week or something, see if that helps him realize what he will be missing... if not, then i don't see him changing... good luck!

Answer 2

does he pull his weight when it comes to paying the rent and supplying yours and babies needs.

if he is and if he is good to you .then you have no reason to leave.He was good enough to get hooked up with then he should be good enough to get married .

Answer 3

Your son is your 1st priority. You're exhausted & hurt. At this moment try to ignore him. Don't expect anything from him. Pretend that you're all alone w/the baby, that he's not even existed. At the same time anytime you make any contact w/him try to smile.... Why? Because It will heal you. And It will heal him, himself. That's the most important thing. Do it w/your heart. Before you know it, everything will get much better than you would expected. Be patient, never count your time... Trust me, you're as beautiful as your baby... And you deserve to be happy... Good Luck...

Answer 4

no it is not wrong,you only want whats best for yous both,you and the little one,if he is like that,that's his choice,yous are the ones who have to suffer,what you have to realise is,like you say,do you stay,will things get better,how they should,or do you take the risk you have had enough,both are frightening really,especially when its the UN known,but sometimes you have to follow your heart,somethings just never change,they say it all the time but never with any meaning,until its to late,then it is,i feel sorry for you,its not right,you are only wanting what is expected of a normal houshold,family,it doesn't cost to be nice,and pull your weight,i hope you find the right decision for yous,it has to be one only you can make,i have been a bit paranoid of late but if you ever feel the need to talk to me,please do not hesitate,i do understand,OK,i wish you well,peAce.

Answer 5

oh girl have you told him you will leave it he dont help out? its not wrong to want to leave cuz u sure didnt make this baby on your own, he needs to do his part as a father if he is going to be around....my thoughts anyways

Answer 6

You have to do what is best for you and the baby. You need to make sure your partner understand how serious you are. Both sit down and do it not just in words but on paper to. Split chores up and such.

___ will do dishes on ___ days.

so on...

Answer 7

No don't leave. It is your babies father and you have no right to take his son away from him. If you can't get along with him, fine, but at least let the kid go see his father every weekend.