Is my daughter to attached?

Question

All of a sudden my 7 year old daughter is attached to my hip. I can't leave the room without her coming also (even to go to the bathroom) She wakes me up every night crying wanting to sleep with me. Please keep in mind that this just started and is not normal for her. I know that it is normal to an extent, but at what point should I start to be concerned? She has also become very emotional and is crying all the time or throwing a fit. Any advice on what I can do?

Answer 1

i was like that with my mom too its a pahse

Answer 2

there probably something going on with her that she's not telling you when  first relized what death was i was around her age the one person i really was afriad of seeing die was my mom so i did the same thing i woke her up in the middle of the night never wanted her to leave me always worried about her coming home from work by herself i even check her heart beat and breathing while she slept so just talk to her and ask her whats wrong or if she wont talk to you keep asuring her that you'll always be there when she's ready to talk everythings going be all right

Answer 3

something is going on with her. Sit her down and have a chat. Has anyone died around you? Is she being bullied. Something is going on for this to suddenly happen

Answer 4

Quite normal although not always this young.  She sounds as if she is about to enter puberty.  No not uncommon at this age it will take another year or two for PMS to rear it's ugly head but she is in the very beginning stages of pre puberty.  I would ignore the emotional outbursts (just wait until she is in puberty full blown talk about DRAMA!).  After she has her outbursts go in and talk with her...explain that you understand whatever it is and help her calm down.  As far as her wanting to sleep with you...again that is part of the pubecence, she is growing up and that has manifested into feelings of growing apart from you and being only 7 that is quite frightening.  Tell her that while she can't sleep with you, you are open to sitting and talking at night before she goes to sleep to reasure her.  One thing that I have found very helpful is having a "bi monthly slumber party night" with my girls.  We do what girls do at slumber parties, I get to their level and it tends to allow them to relax and open up with their fears, their hopes, their dreams.  It might be worth a try.  But relax...all this will pass...some day...I have two pubecing an 11 year old who started last year and an 8 year old who started this year...FUN

Answer 5

At seven years old?  Not to frighten you but you NEED to talk to her.  She is old enough to communicate her fears.  If this is just all of a sudden and random, something might have happened to her.  It could have been at school, or at a friends house, or maybe she had a realllyyy bad dream that hit a sensitive spot...but something happened.

Talk to her immediately and find out what it is, if anything.  Then, go from there.  If nothing happened, or she wont tell you, just make sure she knows that you love her.  Then, if it seems like she is afraid, but she still wont tell you what happened, make sure you tell her, again, that you love her, and that you want to make sure she is safe all the time, so its VERY important that she tell you if something ever happens that does not make her feel safe.  Ask her things like...did something tell you you would get in trouble if you told me...you wont get in trouble for talking to me because I love you and want to make sure you are safe.

Hope it is nothing serious, but....please talk to her.

Answer 6

I agree with everybody, talk to her because 7 yr olds don't just one day out of the blue decide to become clingy. If you don't know how to talk to her take her to someone that knows how to get her to open up. Do not let anyone tell you its just a "stage" because its not. As for the point you should become concerned, that point has passed, find out now whats going on with her.

Answer 7

has she just started a summer camp or daycare?

if so, she could be copying the tantrums she sees there from the other kids.

Has a recent event happened where she has gotten worried she wouldn't see you again- going on a buisness trip, vacation with your friends, etc. If so this could prompt her to started becoming attached to you becaue she wants you to herself and she doesn't want you leaving the house with other people. This is just a thought.

You might want to ask your pediatrician on anything you can do.  

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I really think you should try to find out if something has happened to her.  Has she recently stayed alone at a friend or family member's house?  Has something scared her?... maybe something she saw on TV.    Most 7 yr olds don't all of a sudden become clingy unless something has happened.

Don't be afraid to ask her.  You don't want this to go on for too long and cause more trauma for her.

Answer 10

I'm glad you asked this Question. In my opinion,you need to talk to her about whats making her fearful. Just sit down and have a talk with her the next time you see her. You have to remember if she does say something happened to her,you must take it seriously.The worst thing you can do if something like that was happening would be laugh or brush it off. Are you married,if you are she may be scared of your husband because he might have done something to her.The #1 thing you can do right now is sit down and have a heart to heart with her.