Is my friend abusing her child?

Question

I've this gf who'd been complaining to me that her husband is not helping their daughter with her homework. My daughter and hers are only in the first grade. Got to know her for 2 years and have the impression that her daughter face problems with her studies. Only last week that she showed me her daughter fourth grader homeworks which was way advance! It seem that I know her so little despite our almost daily communication via emails. She said her daughter has no friend. I arranged a playdate last week with a few kids and she left early, she told me that her daughter is only comfortable with 1-1. I felt betrayed in some way and I think she's strange. It's hard for me to put in words why I felt used. During her stay here, she went through my daughter's assessments/ text books..etc. oh..this is frustrating.

Answer 1

Yes raising children is frustrating yet rewarding....your question was complex because you should me 2 daughters first grade and fourth grade.....slow down   teachers wanr to teach, kids want to learn.....there is a point when teachers expect to much from a child an obviosly parents see the parent did the homework...well good for them...not all of us have that creative idea and we let our children do the project told....I think i am more amazed then the teacher of what my daughter creates and even protestes,   so somthing i was not out spoken enough to represent !!!

Answer 2

It doesn't sound like your friend is abusing her child (if she is, there is no evidence to support this based on what you have written). She may be comparing your daughter's level with hers and what a  child her age is usually learning in school.  Some parents are overprotective or irrational sometimes, but it doesn't necessarily mean they are abusing their children.  

Answer 3

Nope

Answer 4

NO that's not abuse! By that standard all of us who make our kids do their homework and expect them to do things to the ability they are able is abusing their kids. Maybe she's just not a social person. Maybe she's picking up on the vibe that you think she's weird. It sounds to me like 1) you are jealous that her kids are at a higher level than yours and 2) that she is not your friend anyway.  

Answer 5

what the h**l  she isnt letting her child have any d**n fun what the fuc  first grade and has advance fourth grader homework tell her what u think about the way she treats her child she wants her child to be MEGA SMART even tho shes only in first grade confront her about it

Answer 6

No. And if you feel because the child is in advanced studies she's being abused you should  not be around them.   She may not like your kid is all. or maybe you.  Don't feel bad we can't like everyone, but we don't have to accuse abuse because one has a smart kid and the other is average.

Answer 7

i don't think she is abusing her child. However, 4th grade work is too advanced for a 1st grader. No wounder she is having problems with her studies. Is she being homed schooled?

Most kids are more comfortable 1 on 1 but it is good to expose them to more then 1 child because it teaches them they are not the center of the universe, conflict resolution, and how to deal with others.

I have a neighbor, whom i think is strange. They don't let their daughter out of the house even when all the other kids are on the side of the house playing. I have noticed over the past 3 years. The once happy go lucky child looks depressed at the age of 8.