Is my sister guilty?

Question

Ok so I have two older half sisters.

I've known them all my life.

One of them has never really shown any interest in me, even tho I love her! But yesterday she took me out shopping and stuff and for the first time in ages I felt like we where proper sisters.

Do you think this sudden act of kindness is just to make up for some lost time? and that she really dosen't wanna be close to me, that she simply wants to feel like she's made some sort of an effort.

Answer 1

I think she wanted to go shopping with you. She probably cares about you but she doesn't show it often because some people just aren't very family oriented. Maybe the parent who isn't yours influenced her to be that kind of person. My half sister is the same way. We rarely see each other, but we have so much fun when we do get together. I learned to just accept her the way she is.  

Answer 2

Perhaps as we all sometimes do, she has reflected on things and realised that she has not spent enough time with you.  Give her a call or send her a little text to say how much you enjoyed spending time with her and that you should do it again soon!  We are all guilty of neglecting those close to us at times.

Answer 3

I'm sure she loves you she just maybe doesn't know how to show you. It's hard to say without knowing you or your sister but you just don't take someone out shopping just to say you did. So if it were me i would be truly thankful and ask if you could take her out to dinner to return the favor.

Answer 4

Accept the kindness as just that and stop reading into it.   Could be that she is finally able to show her emotions.   Maybe it's taken her this long to get over some thing i her life that caused her to withdraw.  Maybe she is grown up some and realizes she hasn't exactly treated you like a sister.  Maybe she's afraid that people will read more into her actions than what was actually intended so she doesn't do it that much.  

Enjoy the time together and stop trying to make a mountain out of a mole hill.  

Answer 5

Don't be surprised that she'll be standing at your door in the near future when she needs something.

Experienced something similar with my wife's sister:

Didn't hear from her for years but recently she came over for a visit and asking stuff about children and so. The week after she told us she was pregnant and needed to borrow money for a loan, we said no and haven't heard from her since.

SO: Watch out, it could be a trick.

Answer 6

Ask her. There is nothing to be lost by trying to talk to her.. You may  be  pleasantly surprised and find she actually likes you. I see no guilt in her actions, but the only way you'll know for sure, is to ask.

Answer 7

Ur sister needs to be punished

Answer 8

Family can be so complicated at times....

Just take it as a nice gesture and see what happens form here on.

Good luck x

Answer 9

She has suddenly realised what she has missed and seems like she is going to be a great sister from now on.

Answer 10

accept your sisters kindness...no need to stir up anything...and maybe one day, the two of you can discuss the various emotions regarding your relationship