Is this an abusive realshionship?

Question

Is it abusive in a realshionship to not have a job for while? (like 2 or 3 months) Is it abusive to not trust your partner and check their email every other day? Is it abusive to act like your going to hit your partner just to scare them?

Answer 1

Are all of these things happening for no reason? I mean, have you not been honest, trustworthy or moral? Are you talking with your ex boyfriends? If not, why is your boyfriend so mistrusting? Your second and third point can be abusive. The acting like he is going to hit you is the first step to physical abuse. He just has to cross the little line and punch you. Is his dad like this towards his mom? Is there anger problems in his family? Your job situation is not out of the ordinary, but you may have to go to a fast food job to make money until you find one in your field. Please re-evaluate your relationship. Is it worth being afraid? What happens when you have children? Do you want to spend your life living like this? Is your relationship fun? If not, think about leaving. You're better off by yourself. Good luck  

Answer 2

Yes. Say goodbye and don't look back and don't take them back either. This person is controlling and a bully. That doesn't change for the good....it only gets worse with time.

Answer 3

yes. dump him now! esp the last one. what an a*****e. dump him.

Answer 4

its not being abusive not to have a job...if theyre looking for a job and cant find one thats fine because times are hard right now...if theyre not looking for a job then its just being lazy...

its not abusive not to trust your partner and check emails..checking emails is just being insecure and nosey...

it is abusive to act like youre gonna hit your partner to put fear in them...if this continues or gets worse then its time to leave..

Answer 5

it is DEF. abusive to intimadate your partner into submisson.

the job situation in itself is NOT abuse. his failure to financailly assist you can be part of economical abuse, but i would need more info.

your parents checking on your email is an invasion of privacy, but not necessarily abuse.

i can not say without more information if this is abuse, but i CAN say that this is an unhealthy relationship and it can escalate to abuse, domestic violence

in order for a relationship to be consider domestic violence, it must be PATTERN of behaviors.

also, ask yourself this:  are you afraid to express yourself to him for fear of ridicule or violence? do you feel safe when you're alone with him? do you often hold in your opinon because you do not want to upset him? when in a disagreement, do you compromise or it his way?  have you limit time with your friends/family because it is too much of a fight with your boyfriend, and easier to just stop hanging out with them?

domestic violence is about power and control, so if his tactics are giving him more power over life and you're doing mroe and more things to appease him and avoid a fight, then it's most likely a domestic violent relationshipo.

either way, this relationship is horrible and you need to run, not walk, away.

Answer 6

SOUNDS LIKE A LOSER!

I WOULD LEAVE THE DIP ****

Answer 7

if all of that is happening without your will,then it is abuse. everything done to you without your will or approval,or doing it under pressure is wrong.

Answer 8

maybe the last one yeah, but i dont see how the first two things would be considered abusive.. :S

Answer 9

Question #1: Depends. Did he get fired or laid off? Is he depressed? Or does he expect you to support him?

#2: I wouldn't say abusive necessarily but definitely controlling. Get a web mail account that's password protected.

#3: Definitely. I don't care how depressed or angry he is, that is unacceptable. If he's unwilling to admit there's a problem and get help, then get out.

Answer 10

yes, i may be 14 but i would dump him already

Answer 11

yes it is not all abuse is physical,but emotional and mental abuse,very dangerous signs