Is this normal??!!!!????

Question

2 days now since my besty had her baby and no txt message, phone call nothing!! i only found out through bebo as her mum had posted something saying they are all doing great, we both got pregnant together and have been going through everything together im 3 months behind her.....i feel really hurt that she hasn't rung me yet am i being selfish????

Answer 1

nope, i would be hurt too!!!

Answer 2

Everyone is different . . . I was always elated and wanted everyone and their cousin to come see my baby.  Not all new mothers are like this.  Some genuinely want space, especially if they have a big family that is already all over the situation.  It sounds like she wants the space.  I know you're excited for her!  My best friend just had a baby *today* and I am desperately wanting to go see the baby.  However, I sent her a message to tell me when she is up for a visit, and I'm leaving it at that.  When she's ready, she'll let you know.

Answer 3

honestly... this isn't about you right now.  she is going through the biggest change in her life and it's got to be about her and baby right now.  As her best friend you need to give her that.  I'm sure when you have your baby you will soon realize what she is going through. She needs time to heal and bond with her baby.  don't be hurt, be happy for her and give her whatever time she needs, that's what best friends do, right?

Answer 4

babies do take up alot of your time and after having them we just want to rest a little bit just give her time or even text her and say hey hows the baby! your not being selfish your just trying to be a good friend

Answer 5

Give her a break. She and her family are spending time together now. She will call you when shes ready. Dont be offended. You will do the same thing when you have your baby. You barely get sleep and every day with your baby seems like a wonderful dream.

Answer 6

Shes probably just caught up in the fact that she just had a baby, you will understand when you have yours, everything is so crazy, visitors, nurses in and out, After I had my son I literally had enough time to send one text message to one of my friends that said, I had my baby tell everyone kay? And that was it, I never had time for my phone anymore... and plus you havent been to see her either, so she might be thinking the same thing about you, she probably just thinks you know she had it... And she might be sitting there like "I've been here for 2 days and my best friend hasnt been to see me?!" Maybe you should go visit her and show her you care, just simply tell her you had no clue she had it! I'm sure when everything gets calmed down she will talk to you again, but having a baby is big! you will soon realize! good luck to you!

Answer 7

It's not selfish to feel hurt.  However, step outside of your hurt feelings and call her or go visit her!  Giving birth is a huge experience that can keep her focus only on her and her baby.  She more than likely has not had time or felt up to texting or calling.  If it were you, you would want her to initiate a congrats call to you even if you hadn't called to share the news.  Unless you two were already on the outs I'm sure she has just been occupied and exhausted......something that comes with giving birth and motherhood.

(((Hugs)))

Answer 8

she's probably exhausted and im sure you'll understand when you have your little one. wlthough, i must say i think i called everyone in the books because i was so bored at the hospital. you can try giving her a call andd if she doesnt answer or doesnt call back then give her some time

Answer 9

She just had a baby. Chill. Give her time. In three months, maybe you won't feel like calling someone either =)

Step up and go visit her!

Answer 10

While it is understandable that you are hurt. You need to understand that she is probably still adjusting to the new life. I'm sure that as soon as she gets both her feet on the ground again and is capable of running (not literally; metaphorically speaking), that she will give you a ring. Just because she and the baby are doing well doesn't mean that she isn't busy doing this and that. Having a baby is a big, that involves a lot of time and effort. Just give it a few more days, maybe a week or so. She's your friend; she'll call....

Answer 11

Didn't I answer this question the other day? You are being unrealistic. Her identity has changed. She is no longer in the same phase of life as you, she's gone ahead to full blown motherhood and you won't get there for another three months. You have every right to be hurt, but keep it to yourself. She's busy. She's sore. She's tired. She's trying to adjust. You are going to feel just the same when you have yours. You will be too tired to care about anyone else's feelings. Any spare energy she has will be put to use entertaining her family and her inlaws so she doesn't have to listen to them whinge. If you have the energy to behave like a best friend, make her a nice batch of healthy muffins and drop them off at her house when she gets home. Try and keep a hold of your hormones. She's probably thinking you're the one person who will understand and let her have the space she needs. She'll ring when she's ready. Stop sooking, sweetie, and go buy her baby a present.