Is this situation wierd?

Question

im 15 about to turn 16 and this boy is 14 i have known him for almost all my life and i think i like him hes going into 9th grade and im going into 11th, my sisters 12 and they both just admitted to each other that they like each other....but he flirts a lot with me too...is it wrong that i have this crush? i want to get over him but its breaking my heart that he likes my sister and not me....can you include ways to get over him also?

Answer 1

No its not weird like you should be admitted to a hospital for mental evaluation. But most woman in society even at a young age search or are atracted to older men for the more money and opportunitys to have more fun they have to offer. bottom line though your a girl and have power that you don't know about even if your ugly you do. Its your but or boobys older and other atractive guys will like you and then play you for taking advantage of your power over them.

Answer 2

No, it's not weird. It's only normal for a female to have feelings for someone who we are close to and have known for a long time. That's the way we're made. Especially if they show us attention, which is probably why your sister likes him too. As we get older, we have to learn how to sort our feelings between the reasons why we like someone. Otherwise, we will me an emotional mess.

I wouldn't put too much blame on the 14 y/o boy. He may not really know what he's doing. After all, you are all young and not in dating relationships. So, it's not like he's cheating on either of you. You all get along, that's all. You are all still learning what you are attracted to. If you think he likes your sister more and thinks he's better suited to her you should make sure you tell him to respect your sister.

I say it like this because you said, "I think I like him". If he is flirting with you and your sister is really liking him, it's going to hurt her and she can start to feel like she has to compete with her big sis. Since it doesn't seem like a problem right now I wouldn't bring it up until he is flirtatious with you. At that point, confront him and his behavior and his feelings with you and your sister. How he responds should give you your answer.

Last note: I have learned to deal with my own heartache by coming to realize that truly there is only one man who I am made for. This means that all the other men are not going to be attracted to me, not going to measure up to my standards, or we are just not going to be a match for whatever reason. I can't be angry or hurt because we aren't a match. He's just another to mark off the list. I hate it when men get upset at me for not being attracted to them. Just don't let anything get between you and your sister. Hope I helped.  

Answer 3

wellllllll

ifs hes flirting with you.. and your sis.. hes an ***:S i gess!

and if ur close with ur sis, u shud tell her..

she shudnt get involved with a guy like that

and well.. hes 14...not saying that age shud matter, its just that you both are really young, including your sis... so.. you shudnt have to have this problem now..

talk to your sister, she deserves to know the truth

Answer 4

It is not weird and is not unusual.

You will find that you have little in common with this guy except that you want to take him away from your little sister who would be better off w/o him

If he is flirting with you while being her bf then he is worthless and not worth your time or your sisters time.

Talk to sis and see if the two of you might could dump him at the same time and both come out ahead.

This guy is a loser and if you allow him to come between you and your sister then you are not much better.

Any guy who would put you girls in that position is very insecure and self serving. You don't need him in your lives.

Always keep the sister over any guy