Just need some uplifting about love...?

Question

i have had some bad relationships in my past, and im just kinda feeling down about stuff. i just would like some advice about how to remain confident that eventually i WILL find someone who will love me for me, not use me, and that i will actually get married and have a family. it just gets real depressing to keep getting my heart broken. i kinda feel like it might not ever happen. i know im young, 23, but i haven;t even been in a real relationship since high school...can yall give me some uplifting words. i came to this section cuz i know the majority of ya'll who answer are happily married....

Answer 1

I'm not married.. but I'm 22 and in a wonderful relationship.. now. I have been through my share of cheats, lies,break ups, using me.. and the whole 9. The one thing I can say is that I remain optimistic. I'm a true romantic person and believe in love and the ever after. I keep my heart open and want love so bad. I lead with my heart.. and wear it on my sleeve. I dont know if thats a good thing or bad thing..  but I'm sure its better than being closed up and shutting the world down. Not wanting to ever be in a relationship again. What I can say from these bad relationships is.. that I learned SO much from them. Each time we broke up.. I analyzed what went wrong. If I moved too fast, what signs I missed, what b.s was I accepting.. the list goes on and on. It made me who I am today.. and just set my expectations higher. I truly  believe you WILL Find love one day.. and you had to go through those break ups.. to learn and to find YOUR B.S that you won't accept.

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 2

I'm not married, I'm 24 and a, in the same spot as you! the only thing i can tell you is what i tell myself:

"God has a plan for each and everyone of us. Since it's from God it HAS to be good. Be Patient."

Sometimes I do get annoyed, especially when everyone is geting engaged or married.

BUT sometimes I do thank God for not having someone especially when you see people cheating.

Answer 3

Concentrate on bettering yourself by doing things that build your self esteem. Get into a class. Get involved with volenteer work. Get involved also with your church.You will find that if you put yourself out there around people who do good with their life you have a chance of making friends with a better set of people. Love is a great part of life, but there is so much more to life than relationships. Love will come to you on its own time. In the mean time there are many lonely people out there who need a friend, who just need to hear that someone cares. Give of yourself from the heart and you will be surprised how much satisfaction you will derive from this. You are important and special in your own way and the world needs you to get involved, to give of yourself. To know you have made a difference in peoples life is great for your self esteem. Get busy and you will see that love will find you when you least expect it. I have been through 2 marriages and 2 divorces until I found my true love. I am now happily married to a wonderful man who loves me the way I needed to be loved. You will too, seriously. If so many people have found love, then you will too. God has a way of preparing us for our true love. Your past heartbreaks are lessons and you need to learn from them so that you do not repeat the same mistakes you have made in the past. The day wll come when you will be ready to love and to be loved, you will see. When you do, think of me and what I have said, and I hope you are smiling when you do.  Best wishes to you.

Answer 4

Love comes when you least expect it.

If you sit and wait for it you'll drive yourself nuts.

In the mean time work on being a better well-rounded person.

Take some classes in something with no credits but just something that interests you...volunteer your time....spend more time with your friends and family.

Love will come when you're ready.

Answer 5

Yes, you are very young.  I didn't meet my match until I was 37.  I thought for sure I would never find him, but he popped up when I wasn't even looking.

Answer 6

Ok, well yes I'm happily married. I was single up until my thirties and I am so glad I waited for my husband. I came close a couple of times to marrying a couple of other guys but when they asked, I knew in my heart they weren't the ones. When my husband asked I had no doubt. And that what I'm going to tell you is that until you find that right one, dating is going to be drama and craziness. But if you learn to protect your heart and step out of bad relationships ASAP then you will do well. I recommend you figure out what you need and want. For example, morals, ideals, likes and dislikes. When you meet a woman find out if she is equal to you in those things. If not, get out, go to the next one.

And I was used and abused in dating until I met my husband, I take it as a way for me to know the difference between a good man and not. Plus, I kept reminding myself that if there is a good woman such as myself still out there single, why shouldn't there be a good man out there also. Plus, we are both Christians so god let us know in many ways we were meant for each other. Hope this helps, and yes you are still very young and you don't have to look just be out enjoying life and all the world, if you force it you may get distracted by the wrong woman.

Answer 7

love is a short-term, self-destructive hormonal imbalance...

lust is forever.... :D

Answer 8

Your person will come along... As long as you are being yourself, and being the best persona you can be, as well as MEETING other people (NB), then someone who will love you for you will come along. I always wondered the same, but he arrived.  

Answer 9

All I can say is that love turns up in the darndest places and at the most unexpected times.  I'm writing a book right now on my most significant relationships and how they affected who I am as a person and I can tell you that 2 of those relationships happened over the phone because I happened to be visiting a friend of mine (2 different friends) and she was talking to her boyfriend and he had a friend over.  There was absolutely no way I could have known that I was about to become involved in a romantic venture just by going to visit my friend.  That's the beauty of love.  While you are waiting for your "some enchanted evening"  try to change your perspective about "finding someone."  

Think of it this way, you know how when you misplace something and you look all over for it and most times it just will not turn up?  Then out of the blue one day after you've quit searching for the confounded thing suddenly there it is right in front of your face?  That's how love is.  Don't focus on "finding." Instead, focus on making your life an adventure.  Get out and do things, put yourself in good places to make friends and meet people and before you know it you'll run right into love.  I'd advise not hanging out often in clubs and bars though.  Those are fine to go to once and awhile if you go with the attitude of "I'm just going to have fun, I'm not going to hook up with anyone and I don't want the relationship material that's there."  

You are going to have some wonderful times ahead of you, I guarantee, just remember to keep life a wonderous adventure- not a drama or soap opera or a Jerry Springer episode!!!!!  Good Luck!