Left out by friends and depressed

Question

this obese girl who i was really nice to when eveyone teased her has now become popular. she looks down at me now for hanging out with the nerds. well among the nerd i am not very welcome as they all have their own friends. it is so awkard when they share their own secrets among themselves. they are pretty ok other than that as we do go out for lunch, i just walk with them, not sure if i am a ctually invited. but they do talk to me, however i was pretty upset that one girl did not help me when i almost fainted.

what should i do about the obese girl who now mocks me?

does my current group of friends( nerds) actually like me?

Answer 1

Good for you for being a friend when others wouldn't.  Don't ever let her response to your kindness ever determine whether you will befriend someone again in the future.

You are dealing with a lot of psychology here.  I imagine that this girl is still very hurt about being teased for so long and now for once in her life, she's on the popular side of it.  

So think of what it takes to be popular from her point of view.  She believes that popular people have to make fun of others, they have to be perfect, and they can't have friends that aren't perfect.  This is probably something she's believed for a long long time.  She likely is still recovering from low self esteem and couldn't handle being rejected by the popular people who now like her.  She's probably still trying to figure out why before she wasn't good enough before and now she is.  Whatever it is, she may still really like you but is so worried that her new "better" friends won't like you and doesn't want to risk getting rejected.  Does she pick on you in front of others but when you see each other walking alone in the hall, maybe she smiles or waves?

One thing is certain though, if she bases her self worth and judges others based solely on what these people think, she will be dropped by them just as quickly as she was raised to Miss Popular status or they will likely start using her for cheating on tests, stealing things, etc. because they know she will do it.  It's how it works with people who have no convictions.  

In the meantime, see if there are any clubs or sports that you just might enjoy but never really considered it before.  My school had loads of clubs.  In my senior year, I was in several choirs, plays, varsity sports, and student government, but decided to meet new people by joining Hiking Club and Chess Club.  You'll find some new experiences and people.  

Don't worry about this girl for now, it's no use being friends with people to tear others down only to lift themselves up.

Answer 2

Well just keep being nice because when you are super nice to people that are mean it gets to them real bad. If it hurts you that she does those things dont let her relize that it does because then she will just keep doing it because she knows it gets to you.! Also, your true friends will be there for you no matter what you should not care of what others think be who you are for yourself and no one else.... trust me it will help you on the outcome of things! Sorry you have to go through that kids can be cruel!

Answer 3

turn around and call the obese girl 'fattie' btu do it from a distance - she might sit on you

tbh if these nerds are acting all ghey just ignor them and make some new friends

remember some body is not better than nobody , dont hang about with loosers, better no freidns than lame ones

Answer 4

that obese girl is messed up and im going to tell you the truth dont be nice to people be yourself like me im naturally pissed off at all times and when i went to my new school my mom told me i should be all chipper half way through the year i hadnt made one friend so i just decide f*ck it ill be myself i made lots of friends and 3 really good friends like im the grumpy one of the group so just be yourself those nerds dont sound like there reall your friends you should probably still sit with them since its not 2 fun sitting alone just try to make a real friend the best way to do this is to be yourself and join some after school activities so you will meet somone who is interested in the same same stuff as you and when that obese girl comes and talks smack to you just remind her who the only person that talked to her was and how the popular people used to treat her like dog doo doo

and then tell her that the stuff she says doesnt get to you and tell her not one of those popular kids is really her friend and walk away simple as that i hope i helped you with your problems

Answer 5

Honestly, your in a better situation than I am.  I am still sorry that you have to go through this pain too, though.

Answer 6

Well, if your group of friends who really noticed you during the lunch or other occasion, I think they may have forget your presence in the group. Whether you want to stay with the group, it really depends on yourself.  

Answer 7

She sounds like she is a very selfish person who has let her popularity get to her head. You need to get her on your own and remind her what she felt like being alone, and why would she want the only person who was nice to her to be in that situation?

It's hard to say if the "nerds" like you or not, because we're not them. I've been in a situation however where I just "tag along" with people who aren't really my friends, and then suddenly some people appeared and I just made friends with them all of a sudden! So it's likely to happen to you too. Try some after-school activities to make new friends who share your hobbies.

Answer 8

HIYA!!!

Don't worry i went thru this.

Try and get this girl on her own and ask her whats gone wrong in your relationship. DO NOT WRITE A LETTER - DOESN'T WORK!!! don't let your emotionsget the better of you.

if you don't want ot do that, tell her she left something at your house or something, ask her to come an get it. then talk to her.

good luck but i dont' think yoiu need it - YOULL BE GFINE!!!

Answer 9

i don't know what can you do about her, but i know she does it because she likes it being popular, and she is afraid to be back what she was before, and she wouldn't risk it just for you or someone else.you can just hope that her new friends will ditch her, and then you can be mean to her then.and i don't think that those nerds like you.i mean, i had a group of "friends" like that too, but then realized they don't like me, and ****** off.and now i have no friends.and i know how it feels, but i really have no idea what to do about it.