MIL sending me silly again !!!?

Question

when caitlyn is asleep i alway put her on her back in her bassinett/cot or pram , my MIL always turns her on her side when im not looking or leave the room she says she always did it with her 2 kids.so when i return i put her back the way she was and i always get a funny look from her.

i dont like it though sleeping on her side neither does my hubby he has told/asked her a few times to leave her on her back but she choose's to ignore him . you know the whole MOTHER KNOW'S BEST ROUTINE !!

sould i step in or let hubby handle it ???

Answer 1

hahah i love these mother in law type questions..arent they all the same :)

let ths husband handle it and if he doesnt just tell her where you stand

Answer 2

CM

Your questions are a favourite amongst our mothers group because we all have shocking MIL's

It's time to pull out the SIDs risks, show her the SIDS website.

That may only solve this issue  and from the sounds of things hubby needs to have a word with her before you tell them all to get xxxx.

Answer 3

I woiuld let your husband explain your reasons so as not to cause further relationship problems shes probably only trying to help you but is doing it in a way that you are finding unhelpful!

Answer 4

It's your child, not hers. You can thank the MIL and be polite but firm. Your child, your rules, your responsibility. MIL can be responsible for gifts, advice and occasional baby-sitting.

Answer 5

if she keeps doing it tell her yourself apparently she thinks she can do what she feels is best. Baby is suppose to be on their back and turn their head one way one night and the other the next, so they dont develop a flat spot. Next time she does this I would tell her, you raised your kids now let me raise mine

Answer 6

Advise your mother in law that you make the rules when it comes to your children or she will no longer be invited to your home.  She is being very disrespectful to you and your husband.

Answer 7

Oh, I don't know. As a mother in law of two I am forever hav ing to role my eyes. Have your hubby sit down with the MIL. She will listen to him moreso than you. She will always resent the fact that your rules rule. Like you said, she raised her children and they lived in spite of her.  I sometimes tell my son when my DIL gets to big for her britches.....my only job is to send my granddaughter home alive..*G*...I would say hubby handle this issue if he will and also love....please please pick and choose your battles....Sometimes daughter in laws get a tad bit huffy with us because they know we are not the last say. Being a MIL is harder than being a DIL....IF this lady is otherwise kind to you and you guys have a relationship, try to keep this a friendly disagreement. Its not only for you and your hubbys future relationship but for your daughters as well...After all, this is your daughters grandmother too. Also, do you nitpick with your mother in law as much as you do your mother? I can do the same thing her mother does and she has a cow. Her mothers way of course is perfect. So its hard to define your situation without knowing your relationship with the MIL before the grandbaby....Good Luck Love.....God Bless

Answer 8

Well, if its her child, by all means let her do what she wants.

UGGHH. Its yours. you need to learn stuff for yourself.  Shes NOT helping, by helping the way she thinks she is.  Tell her its your child, and when she says she thinks shes helping, tell her you'd prefer to make your own mistakes

Answer 9

it's actually better for the baby to be on it's side, in case it spits up.  you don't want her choking.  anyway, it's YOUR baby.  why is your MIL going into her room anyway?

Answer 10

I would step in. She has no right to take control of your baby like that. Even if she is your MIL. I probably would have snapped when I saw that she had moved her the second time after being told a few times not to. Its ridiculous how people think they can do whatever they want to kids even if they arent theirs..

I was at my moms once and my daughter was crying and I put her in the crib she kept at her house because it was her nap time and I told my mom to just let her cry for a couple minutes and she will be asleep. And what did my mom do? She waited until I wasnt paying attention and went right in there and got her out. I was so angry, but I kept my mouth shut- and I regret it. I should have spoken my mind, and I think thats what you should do. Let her know you mean business!! and if things dont go your way- since it is your baby and all.. that she wont be able to spend as much time with caitlyn as she'd like to, if at all.

Answer 11

"Our baby, our rules...time to respect us in that". That's what I'd tell her, and after that let hubby handle anything that comes up.

Edit* The root of this may simply be something totally non related. Try doing some scrapbooking of baby pics with her, and little things like that...see if over a week or 2 her mood/behavior changes any. She may just be wanting/needing something. Honestly...it just hit me like a glass of ice water to the face....but that could be part of whats going on. Distract her from routine, and involver her in memories...she may thrive on that, and give you some peace!

Nothing more than a theory, if it doesn't sound good to you...totally disregard lol.