MONSTER MOTHER IN LAW?

Question

i am 6 years married with my husband at the very first my mother in law is against with his son early marriage he was then 26 years old at that time, no work, he didn't finish his course and that fact that he is the first child in the family..his mother is very upset that time that he dont even bother to communicate with his son for almost a year.but when i give birth thats the time that he communicate with his son..that time my husband dont have any work...so every time he need money he just ask to her mom..as the time goes by i thought its all helping us...i help my husband to work as an ofw..my problem occur these past month..my husband right now is in vacation and we dont have any savings, so as usual he just ask her mother to help her out with our expenses..and the problem occur when we these fight with my husband that we leave him in our house..i went back with our house just to please may sister..that time i was very angry with my husband that her mother texted me and asking how are we..i dont reply it because i was angry with his son..so the next morning i scan the mesg of my husband cellphone...there are so many things that my mother in law have said to me and i cant help it but get more angry with my husband family..all the while i thought all her help with us is heartily given..my family also help us in all our needs especially the needs of my two sons but if we have a fight with my husband they dont even utter one bad word againts with my husband..right now i dont want my husband ask to her mother because the blame is againts me and i dont take all her words...please help me....my feelings is hatred towards his family and especially to my husband...

Answer 1

Your husband is not responsible enough to be married and to have children as he acts like a child him self.  Your mother in law gives him money as he has no job.  What would you do if she did not help out.  I think your angry with the wrong person.  

Answer 2

The problem is NOT your mother in law.It is her dead beat son.The guy YOU married.

It sounds like he is not MAN enough to support you and his children.He should NOT be asking his mother for "help" especially if he is using his money for a "vacation".

He needs to cut the apron strings and be a man hon, and you need to tell him you cannot respect him as a man, a husband and father of your children UNTIL he is able to PROVE he can take care of all of you WITHOUT his "mommy's "help.

Answer 3

i couldn't blame you for feeling that way... Placing myself on your shoes, i would also feel the same...

but the hardest part is that the one you are dealing with is your secondary family and that means that monster you are referring is your secondary mother..

all i can say is that just add a little patience on your part.. let her say whatever she wants to say, as long as you never started the situation and you wouldn't do something that could trigger something that would cause a big trouble. Let her say whatever she wants to say and she will definitely get BORED if she sees that you never cared and said a single word with what she has been doing against you...

it is not being martyr it is just sparing your reputation from being cheap like your mother in law... cause if she is professional enough and an ideal mother to her son, she wouldn't say things behind your back instead she would rather talk to you and to your husband and not backbiting. for in fact after having the marriage vows, you are already a part of their family, and that means you are also her daughter..

smile and be patient... for after all, life is like a wheel, it turns.. if you feel you are down right now, be sober, for your wheel will definitely turn up one of these days....

Answer 4

How about you find a reliable man.

Answer 5

what the two of you should do is get two jobs if necessary and STOP ASKING HIS MOTHER FOR MONEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  you have two kids try supporting them yourselves!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!