Marriage after one month?

Question

I have a very serious question. I am in love with a man and he is in love with me after one month of dating. I know it's very weird and crazy what what I am saying. However he and I both feel that GOD brought us to each other. We had this instant connection immediately and have been inseparable since then for the most part. We have had our arguments and problems-Yes in this is small amount of time. He is what I have wanted in man and I am what he has always desired for in a woman. I have no children that has been his dream to want children and not have to be in a relationship with a woman with children. He also is very family orientated and understands my needs. We know that people think that we are crazy and we have went into this as cautiously as we can but we just FEEL that this is right. We have talked about and discussed many things. This is so hard for me to write because I do genuinely feel that we love each other and want to be together forever. Has anyone ever experienced this before or can give some type of comments on this issue that you have been through before. Is this rare to feel this way?

Answer 1

If God brought you together he won't mind you waiting till you know each other better. If you're going to be together for the rest of your life, then dating for 2 years won't change that fact

Answer 2

while this is not all that rare....it is not all that common. I do believe in love at first site, but that is usually not a safe bet. If you two are truly in love, it will last as long as it takes for you to get to know each other.And I don't advocate living together.

Answer 3

too long ( i mean the text)

too soon ( i mean the marriage)

Answer 4

It is possible. Weirder things have happened.

I have had boyfriends where it was wanting to get married after a month. Those discussions happened on a daily basis. And then things would start to fall apart. And then those relationships ended.

But it always felt right too. At one point in time...in the early stages of the relationship. Then things started to go missing and we were losing each other.

If you are really serious about, then live together first. And live together for a year before there is any kind of engagement. Living with someone is a fabulous way to get to know each other. You will find out who he is really fast. And if it doesn't work out, at least you never took vows. Forever is a long time, when you realize that you are wrong.

Your in love....everything is a fairytale right now. Its young love. Its filled with lust, passion, where your hearts grow wild. And where you think that you could make it work with this person. But believe me, people are different in the beginning of it all. Once they get comfortable, that's when you really get to know them.

Back when I first started dating my husband, we knew by month 1 we wanted to spend together forever. But he proposed 11 months later. Even though we have spent all this time together, we are still learning. But we get the joy of discovering each other. We know each other really well, but there is still more facets, sides, crevices, depths, that we haven't even begun to uncover.

Get married if you want to....that is your choice to make, we can't decide that for you. But please, please spend a lot more time getting to know this guy. He could be fabulous now but in time his true colors will show. It happens with everyone.

Don't make the mistake half of us have made.  

Answer 5

no, people feel this way all the time, teenagers.  Why dont you try to live with him for a month.  Living with someone will tell you everything about the person.  Trust me you could love someone you just see every once in awhile and then you live with them for alittle bit and you relize that you were wrong or the person isnt as perfect as you thought they were.  

Answer 6

It doesn't hurt to wait.  Waiting and learning to wait is a type of preparation.  If you can't learn patience now, there will be many things that come along that you will not be able to handle.  It's a sign of maturity.

Answer 7

every relationship is different, every marriage is different, people who knew each other all through school and got married right after graduation end up divorced 7 years later with kids in tow.  I know people who met on the freakin internet and married and they are STILL married to this day! it just depends on you two, if you both feel that you truly love each other and are willing to accept the "bad times" that will inevitably come into any relationship, than you should be fine! I met someone like that a couple years ago, a wonderful person we were talking about going to vegas to get married, we only knew each other a month but that connection is undeniable, it's like you knew each other in another life! well, sadly this person passed away tragically before we could do that, obviously I was heartbroken, I was devastated, I couldn't function, couldn't work, couldn't do anything, so basically, what i'm trying to say is carpe diem, do what your heart tells you, because life is too d**n short, (the person who i was in love with and that passed away was 30 freakin years old, I would have married if that hadn't happened).

Answer 8

Yes, I have felt that. My now husband proposed after only 3 weeks of dating. Obviously I said yes and we were married two months later. Of course we had been friends since grade school and we didn't start dating until we were both 19. But yes it does happen. It doesn't matter how old you are or how long you've dated, it's how serious you are about each other and the work that you put into your marriage. But be prepared to surprise a few people and even make a few people angry with your decision. Good Luck!

Answer 9

If you are in love with him why do you need to marry him? Does it get any better after marriage? No. So, if you guys are adults start living together. If there is true love it will last regardless of wedding bells or not.

Answer 10

Personally, this sounds like a lot of lust and a whirlwind of passion. I'm not trying to downplay your feelings but I think you'd be far better off waiting a little while. These days you have to be careful and rushing into something because of a whimsical feeling can lead to trouble. Just be smart and consider a long engagement. Give yourselves a year to settle into the relationship and then consider marriage.

EDIT:

To answer your question -- Think of it this way: When we're in a new relationship we're blind to flaws. We're so in love, so enamored, so deep into the whole thing that we fail to see anything that could be wrong. Giving yourselves a little time will not guarantee anything but rushing into it because you feel so in love doesn't mean you'll be together forever either.

I do believe you should do what feels right to you but I think one month is far too soon. Get to know each other more and learn each other's habits, flaws, behaviors, goals, plans, etc. If you are meant to be as you say you are then waiting a little while won't kill you.

Remember -- Patience is a virtue. Enjoy the ride and don't be in such a hurry to race to the altar.

Answer 11

I know exactly what you mean. My Husband told me that he wanted to marry me after one date together, well we got engaged 8 months later then married 9 months after that. He loved me first but it didn't take me but 2 weeks to fall in love with him too. If it true love just get engaged for at least 6 months then get married.

Answer 12

This is the same situation I am going through now.  I have read most of the other answers/comments to this question and I disagree with those who say wait, live together, get to know one another.   It is my firm belief that the foundation of love in its true sense is truth.  If your heart is saying this is "truth" for you, then the only obstacles I can see are perhaps age and religion. For me, age and religion are not an issue.  If your family considers that waiting and marriage counseling, etc, are the way to go before you get married, then maybe you should seek the advice of a clergyman or other professional.  If you are very young and have not had prior relationships then it may be in your best interest to wait for awhile.  I have no doubts that the man I am about to marry is the person who I will share the rest of my life with.  It was that "magic" for us that you only read about or see in the movies, but it is also our connection to the Creator that's what is binding for us.  We want to be married, we have both had previous marriages and have spent lots of time discussing our pasts.  The past is just that, past.. We are not young, and intend to commit ourselves to making our marriage work based on communication and not contention.  So often marriages end because people stop talking and put yelling and negativity first.  There is no doubt in my mind that, after one month I could say "Yes" to marrying this man, he is the dream, and yes it can happen.  Best Wishes to you and many blessings!

Answer 13

Of course its not rare to feel this way, why do you think that youre the only person that has fallen in love? If you wan to marry him, the do it. I really didnt read your whole question, but if you two have fundamental differences like having children or not, then I dont think its very smart to get married. Its just my oppinion, but I also dont really think that God brought you together. You make it sound like you two had to be together in order to save the world. Im really trying not to rain on your parade, but you kind of remind me of all the religious fanatics that I try to avoid. You two are in love, yes it happens after a short time, but no, this type of connection really isnt that rare, sorry.