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Mental breakdown i swear!!!?

by Guest64809  |  earlier

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been with my bf a year. has daughter, i have my own son. My son is with his dad for the summer and im tired. i dont get a break. im with his kid, whom i love. but this is draining me. we have noone to wtch her, she is getting more and more spoiled. he has custody so we dont get breaks like we do with my son. she is always on my heels asking what am i doing or why or this and that. wants to always be in the same room as us. i cant even hug him without her being in the middle. i dont want him to choose, thats NOT right, all i ask for is boundaries. but he denies theres a problem. Im frustrated and i find myself growing very short tempered with her AND him. I am physicall and emotionally tired. i love them, but damnit it i am fed up! i dont know if im overreacting or if im justified in being overwhelmed. i cant even get away cuz we have to save all our gas for work. he asked me to quit working so we can qualify for housing since we were barely making it. but now i feel like my work was a sort of release for me and now im stuck with a bratty kid and someone who wont listen to me. to top it off his family hates me because we live together and they dont see his daughter as much.

by all means they can see her, but he wont let them cuz they try to tell her thigns about me. i need a break and noone is listening to me. supposed to visit my parents in another state and i know hes upset cuz theres noone to take her to school now or watchher. im tired. Please help. if im being selfish, someone slap me back in reality. =( im at a loss!!!!

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  1. Not selfish, just in over your head.  You may want to explore just being on your own for a while.

    Is it possible you resent the daughter being able to spend full-time with you because you can't be with your own child?  Maybe you resent being asked to quit your job and be a full-time mom when you're not married to the man and you don't get to spend enough time with your own kid.  You may love him, but this may not be what you signed on for.  Maybe you want more for yourself.  

    You probably shouldn't take your relationship with her father any further.  It doesn't make you a bad person to brake up with someone because you don't want to raise his child.  You have to be fair and honest with all involved.

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