Mothers and Body issues??

Question

I had my daughter 14 months ago, i am back to my original wieght (yay), my stomach is completly flat, but whenever i look in the mirror im always self consious of whether i still look pregnant or not, i know my body doesn't but for some reason i tend to not wear certain things because i think it makes me look pregnant, and no matter what i wear i still see the pregnant look, i know its all in my head but i hate it and i hate shopping and trying things on just to make sure it doesn't make me look pregnant and wish i could just grab any shirt without thinking these things

I am just wondering if every mom feels this way or is just me, am i the only one who thinks i still look pregnant, even if clearly i do not... and how do i get these thoughts out of my head, or will i always think this way

thanks : )

Answer 1

I felt like that for a couple months maybe, but you're back to your post preg weight... and at that point you should be confident. After a few months and getting back to my weight I was fine.. maybe more confident.

You need to remind yourself that you are now a strong woman that has carried a child and got her body back. That's something to be proud of. I mean don't dress like a s***k or anything LOL... but you know, buy things that flatter you and be proud!

Answer 2

blah....your stomach is flat..i don't pity you at all...........

EDIT:

nah but seriously..it is all in your head..try wearing a favorite outfit you wore before you got pregnant to reassure yourself that you don't look pregnant........i understand where you are coming from..i still don't feel the same after having my daughter who will be 4 later this year...Having a child is a life changing experience that sometimes....changes some of us....well not for the better when it comes to our bodies....We moms just have to learn to love ourselves no matter what and if we can...change the way we feel by working on our bodies...but for your psyche  just  work on feeling at least a little bit better about yourself everyday...and just to remember no matter what transformation we have to go through to feel good again...look at our beautiful children and realize...that...hey...they were worth it.........good luck! I'm sure you look great..with your darn flat stomach....grrrrrrr.....lol......just kidding   ;  )

Answer 3

yep hun we all feel the same i felt very frumpy for ages after my  last child was born

Answer 4

I think it's probably fairly normal. You've got pregnancy on the brain.

I know it's not the same thing (at all) but my cousin is going to have a baby, and her two sisters are much younger than her. One of them told both my sister and me that we looked pregnant (we're both very slender girls, so I suspect she just had pregnancy on her mind).

Just be happy that you're already flat stomached again. The rest will (hopefully) pass soon enough.